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Speaker 1: Next, one of the stars of The Secret steps up to the bully pulpit to help you take control of your destiny.
Joe Vitale: Well, this is powerful because most people don’t know they have counter beliefs within themselves.
Donny Deutsch: We’ve been talking about chaos and control all night. Okay, now I’m gonna light a fire under you to take control and make those millions. I’ve got the high octane jet fuel motivation for you right now. Joe Vitale. He’s a guy that gets paid thousands of dollars to inspire people to go for their dreams. He’s one of the starts of the wildly successful inspirational DVD “The Secret”. He’s written more than 30 motivational books, and his newest book, The Key, sold more than half a million copies in three months.
Joe Vitale, welcome to The Big Idea, man.
Joe Vitale: Hey. Thank you for having me.
Donny Deutsch: You’re a guy who’s gone from being homeless …
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: … sleeping in doorways, to a guy who’s making millions, so nobody knows more about taking control than you. Let’s give the secrets for those folks at home about taking control.
Joe Vitale: Number one is, “Watch your show.” I gotta tell you, I opened for Donald Trump in Chicago just a couple weeks ago. I have 30 minutes to talk. I could be promoting my own books, my Miracles Coaching program. What do I do? I say, “Everybody here should be watching Donny Deutsch.”
Donny Deutsch: We like that one.
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: Okay.
Joe Vitale: So I got five steps that I tell people. Okay?
Donny Deutsch: Doing that.
Joe Vitale: The very first step is, “Know what you don’t want.” Now that may sound obvious. You may be sitting there complaining about everything, but you gotta know that is your benchmark. You use that as your spring to go to number two.
Number two is, “Check your intention.” Intentions are powerful, Donny. Intentions rule the earth. When you state an intention, you realign your body and mind to go in the direction of a new target. That’s powerful.
Donny Deutsch: So getting on all that stuff you were saying. Start with-
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: When you … Give me an example of what, “Okay, I don’t want this, so now I’ve gotta refocus to my intention.”
Joe Vitale: Well, no. It … A lot of people are complaining about they don’t want their bills, they don’t want to be unemployed, they want more money coming in, they want more clients, they wanna feel better. There’s all kinda complaints.
Most people leave it on the level of a complaint. Stop complaining. In fact, take the 21 day challenge that’s in the book, a complaint free world, and stop complaining. Instead, turn it around and do what you do want. So if you don’t want all the bills, what do you want instead? You want enough cash to pay for those bills. State a new intention for what you want. Then you start going in the direction of that, a new intention.
The third step is to “get clear”. Now this is powerful, because most people don’t know they have counter beliefs within themselves. Counter intentions, Donny. They may say, “I want success,” but inside themselves, they may be saying, “I don’t deserve success.” They may say they want money, but you may be telling yourself, “Money is bad. Rich people are evil. Corporations are out to get everybody.” You gotta clean that up. When you clean that up, you go in the direction of what you want. Now you’re clear. So the third step, Donny, is to get clear.
The fourth step is to what I call, “‘Nevelize’ your goal.” “Nevelize” your goal means to feel what it would be like to already attain the thing you want. So if you have the more money coming in, you got more sales coming in, you got a big deal, you end up on Donny Deutsch’s show, you got some kinda great success, at that point, what does that feel like? When you anchor the feeling within yourself, you are accelerating the process of going to it. You kick in your passion. Passion rules. Passion is your ticket to success. You know that. I know that. You out there probably already know that.
The fifth thing that you wanna do is you let go while taking inspired action. Now this is important to understand. Letting go means you’re letting go of desperation, your addiction, your attachment to the end result. All you wanna do is focus on your passion. When you focus on your passion, you naturally take the actions. You must take action. Too many people, maybe some of the people who are watching right now, are just sitting there. They’re not taking action going for what they want.
Those are the five steps.
Donny Deutsch: It’s easy to say, “Take action.” I’m listening to Joe at home …
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: …. and going, “Hey, you know, I’d love to visualize that new car or that new company I’m gonna start. I’d love to get rid of my bills and turn that into cash, and” … But how do you then …
I go, “Okay, I’m in it. I’m with you. Let’s go, boy. Well, let’s do it.” How do I … How do I get it going? How do … What does that all mean?
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: Translate that for me.
Joe Vitale: Okay. Well, the first thing, we gotta go back to step three. So we’ve already gone through the first couple steps. I know what I don’t want. You know what you do want. The third step is getting clear, so there’s a lotta garbage that you just put up there. You were just saying, “I don’t know what I’m gonna do. I don’t know what the next steps are. I don’t know what to do, what action to take.”
When you get clear of the beliefs within yourself that are questioning your own deservingness and your own attitudes towards money or attitudes towards success, your attitudes towards wealthy people and wealth in itself, then you get cleared up so that you know what the actions are, and I say the actions you take, Donny, are inspired action, not just any old action.
Inspired action means it comes from in here. It comes from inside your heart. It comes inside your passion, your soul. The very soul of your being will tell you what to do next, and it’s unique to you, and it may be something like … You had a woman on your show one time who invented this purse, and she got this wild idea. I don’t know that I would have done it, but it was for her. She got on a plane and went to China with no appointments. She didn’t know anybody over there. She went by herself, she got off the plane, and she made cold calls in China to find somebody to make her product. That was inspired action unique to her. Your inspired action will be unique to you. You pay attention to what your intuition is saying, what your gut is saying, and that’s what you act on. Thank you.
Donny Deutsch: Joe Vitale, bestselling author, a guy who was down on his butt, back up, making millions. You could do it, too. More big ideas right ahead.
Brian Rose of London Real interviewed me while I was in London. The following is a excerpt where we discuss the Law of Attraction and I talk about three action steps you can take to create change in your life.
Brian: What can people know, right now, or learn from you, right now, about this concept of this Law of Attraction, as far as what you think about and what you really concentrate ends up what you bring into your life? I mean, what are some basic elements of that? I’ve heard you talk about this in detail, but I still think most people don’t know how to actually practice it.
Yeah. The very first the step is you have to become aware of your current thinking. Most people don’t realize that their thoughts are in the toilet, that their listening to themselves say negative things about 70,000 times a day.
70,000. There are some research studies that are showing its higher than that.
The other thing that’s more startling is that they’re mostly repetition. They’re the same thoughts. They are things like, “I’m not good enough. It’s not gonna work out. This stuff works for other people. Works for Joe Vitale, but it doesn’t work for me. Works for people in The Secret, but it doesn’t work for me.” They wanna do things, but they think, “The economy’s wrong. The President’s wrong. The timing is wrong. I don’t have enough education. I don’t have enough experience.” All of these kinds of negative thoughts keep people shut down. They don’t go for their dreams, they react to life, they kinda crawl through life with no enthusiasm, no sort of energy and no belief in themselves or the possibilities of something better.
What the Law of Attraction is teaching people is that you have a choice. You can change your thinking. One way to look at this is that the thoughts you’re having right now are primarily negative, so that’s the first thing to notice, your thought are primarily negative.
The second one is you’re not your thoughts, you’re separate from your thoughts. This is massive Earth-shaking news, if somebody’s hearing it for the very first time. There’ve been books that are called You Are Not Your Mind, You Are Not Your Brain. What they’re saying is these thoughts that we’re having, we’re having them. We’re not them. If we can detach enough to go, “Oh, here comes that ‘I’m not good enough,’ thought, again,” and let it go by; we’re one step removed from it. Now, we’ve clipped off that energy that was causing us to feel bad because of that thought. That’s the second step is to become aware that I’m not my thoughts.
Third step is to start to generate what you do want to think. This is where things like affirmations, positive thinking, positive statements. Instead of saying I’m not good enough, begin to say I am good enough. Begin to say this can work out for me. If this material has worked for other people, why can’t it work for me, too? I’m human. They’re human. You can start to rebuild your software of the mind, if you want, if you will. These are all elements.
Then, we can get into details, like what you’re going to tend to bring into your life are things that you think about a lot. Most people think about the things they’re afraid of, the things that they’re worried about. I tell people, “Why don’t you start thinking about the things you love, the things you’re passionate about? You’re gonna go in a new direction. You’ll be happier, you’ll be healthier, you’re gonna have better momentum, better enthusiasms, so the repetition of that is gonna be a big thing.
Emotion, going with those feelings of passion, is going to fuel you to go into a direction that you prefer. Actually having an image, and the image could be a graphical representation of what you want. It could be a house, it could be a car, it could be a job, it could be a pile of money, it could be spiritual awakening, whatever you can do because the brain, the reticular activating system in the brain, responds to repetition, imagery and emotion.
All of this is in the direction of … it’s like a condensed course in how to redirect your life by becoming aware that you’re not your thoughts. Those negative thoughts you can let them go, you can start to create new thoughts, you can actually aim where you wanna go by choosing what you want, getting an image of what you want, fueling it with passion and love. Then, you can start to create it, almost organically and automatically.
I received my private pilot’s license back in 1972.
It was an intense ten week program at Kent State University. I’d call it a “crash course” but that seems counter useful for a program on flying planes.
I was 18 years old, fresh out of high school, and in love with flying. I found the course to be the hardest thing I had ever done in my life till then, and for decades after.
I also had some scary moments, like the time I got lost.
I wasn’t yet a licensed pilot, but I was skilled enough to fly solo.
One day I mapped out a cross country solo flight. I got out my compass, maps, highlighter, checked the weather, and did all the manual things you had to do back in the days before instruments and apps.
I took off.
I remember it being a cool, clear day in Ohio.
I always found it meditative to be solo in a plane, high in the sky.
I enjoyed the peace and scenery.
I looked out the window, searching for a check point to confirm I was on my path. I looked around but couldn’t find it.
I don’t recall if it was a water tower or some other landmark. But not seeing my checkpoint made me wonder if I was on course.
I kept flying, looking for my second checkpoint.
I couldn’t find it, either.
Now I was getting concerned.
I looked at my folded map, verifying my route and the checkpoints. They were clearly on the map, but not anywhere in view from the cockpit.
So I decided to start looking for the signs.
I flew to the left, then to the right, then randomly in any direction that seemed promising.
Before long, I knew I was lost.
I’m a solo pilot, on an alone cross country flight, and I have no idea where I am.
I assume I was still in Ohio.
But Ohio isn’t as big as Texas. I may have flown into another state.
Part of our pilot training is to identify runways on the ground, even small ones that a farmer might have, or an abandoned road.
So I started looking for a place to land.
As my flying adventure continued, and my heart raced, I spotted a small runway and a small hanger.
I aimed toward it, got into the landing pattern, and landed.
I got out of the plane and walked to the hanger.
There was a small coffee shop inside. I still wasn’t drinking coffee back then, but I ordered a cup.
I acted like all was right with the world.
Then I decidedly to ask the person making my coffee an important question.
“Excuse me, but could you tell me where I am?”
I got her attention.
It was clear I was lost.
She helped me look at my map, explained I wasn’t too far from Kent State, and helped me reroute my way home.
I got back in the plane, took off, and headed back to my destination.
As soon as I landed, my flight instructor asked what happened.
I told him I had been lost.
He immediately ordered me back into the plane.
He wanted to retrace my steps and see what I did wrong.
Back in the air, I followed my original map.
I again looked at the window for my checkpoint.
But again I couldn’t find it.
My instructor took the wheel, titled the plane, and pointed out the window.
“You were right over the checkpoint!”
I was never lost at all.
I was right on my path, until I began to doubt and question myself.
My instructor explained that checkpoints have to be seen out the left or right side of the plane. You can’t see them if you are right on top of them.
I also learned that throughout my life, whenever I thought I was lost, I reminded myself that I was probably right on my path, only thinking I was lost.
Is there such a thing?
My 93-year-old father was moving some old furniture around when he discovered a few long lost black and white photographs.
One of them was of me.
At the age of ten months.
I had never seen the photo before.
But as I stared at myself of almost 65 years ago, I saw a happy child.
My father told me, “Joe, you were one happy baby!”
Maybe I was.
But I certainly wasn’t happy shortly after growing up.
And I went through long periods of unhappiness as an adult, and as a struggling writer wanting to be a success.
What happened to that happy child?
What happened to that uninhibited smile?
Oh, it’s still here.
People can see the baby smile in my adult face today.
But where’d it go for so long?
My guess is, it never left.
And I’m guessing your original innocent smile is still in you someplace, too.
Lately I’ve been encouraging people to look for their very early baby pictures.
Not the ones where you are still in diapers, and not the ones where you are going off to school.
I want you to find the baby pictures where you are showing signs of awareness and your “original smile” is still on your face.
Get that photo and use it as a meditation.
Stare into the smile.
Let it expand from within yourself.
Feel the original innocence of bliss today.
Because it’s still there.
And if for some reason you can’t easily or quickly find an early photo of yourself smiling, then consider looking at my photo. Or someone else that makes you grin or giggle. Or draw or paint one.
The point is, that original smile is not lost.
It’s in you.
I used to teach a form of meditation where you imagined an inner smile within yourself. As you visualized it, it grew. Before long, you had an outer smile.
Your inner child is still within you.
And it is still smiling.
It’s time to find it again.
PS – I also believe there is something like an “original laugh,” too. That’s where you laugh without control or inhibition. Recently author-singer-TV celebrity Lisa Winston and I held a Facebook Live to discuss our forthcoming event, “Own the Stage.” We were so open and playful with each other that by the end of the broadcast, we were laughing so hard we were crying. Where is your original laugh? Where is your original smile? I urge you to look within and see…