Optimism? How can anyone be an optimist during these times? What grounds are there for being optimistic, anyway? Is it at all realistic?
A few weeks ago a friend asked me how I learned to see the good in life and the good in people. The question stopped me. I had to think. It’s true I look for the good in people and in life. It’s true I learned to do it.
But how? When? Why?
I remember being very unhappy in college. One time I sat on the steps of the house I had a room in (back at Kent State University), feeling sad. A couple walking by looked at me. The woman said, “You look really unhappy.”
A close friend of mine in college even went as far as to say I was “naturally pessimistic.”
Decades ago, on the streets of Dallas, jobless and sleepless with worry, I stood at a bus stop. A man crossing the street looked at me and said, “You look terrible.”
That doesn’t happen today.
No one says I am pessimistic today.
Why am I smiling in this recent photo of Lynne McTaggart (author of The Intention Experiment and The Field)?
Why do I smile more often than not these days?
Why am I now “naturally optimistic”?
What happened to the natural pessimist?
Here’s the secret: I’ve spent a fortune to work on myself over the last few decades – meaning I read books, listened to audios, attended events, and got coaches.
All of this personal development helped me erase the beliefs causing my feelings and behavior.
All of this led to a transformation that today is so dramatically different than what I once was, I’m only the same person by name.
The point is this: Anything can be learned. Anyone can change.
The new science of neuro-plasticity is proving it. So is the new science of positive psychology. We live in an exciting world where even science is starting to point to the miraculous.
But back to me seeing the good in people and in life.
I learned from legendary psychologist William James that whatever I focus on will expand. It’s basic Law of Attraction but without the woo-woo. It’s fundamental psychology.
If you look for bad things, you’ll tend to find them, focus on them, and then see more of them. Your focus will “expand” them into your life.
Change your focus and you change your life.
This is why the work of Will Bowen (author of A Complaint-Free World) and his complaint-free world movement is so important. I’m on his board of directors because I know the power of not complaining but instead stating what you want.
In Law of Attraction terms (as explained in my book The Attractor Factor) it simply means don’t state what you don’t want (the complaint) but instead declare what you do want (your intention).
When it comes to other people, Goethe had something to say about this, too:
“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being.”
I’ve also learned that when you find the good in people and situations, you feel better. You’re happier, healthier, and ultimately wealthier.
People around you feel better, too. They don’t have to defend themselves from your complaining about them or trying to change them.
You love them and they feel it.
This is the core of the Zero Limits ho’oponopono process, as well. You don’t try to change anyone. After all, they are mirror images of you, anyway. Whatever you don’t like in them is something you don’t like inside you.
Might as well love what you see.
In short, reality is what you see, and what you see is what you choose.
Whether the glass is half empty or half full is a choice of perception.
It may not feel like a choice when you start practicing this way of living, but only because of habit. As you continue to pause, decide on what you want to see in any moment, and choose the positive view, you soon learn that being an optimist is a very realistic thing to do. It will become your new nature.
I love that more and people are learning to be optimistic about life. There are a long line of books and people teaching us you have a choice about how you can view life. Whether actor Michael J. Fox (author, Always Looking Up) or Joe Vitale (author, Attract Money Now), the lesson is the same: focus on what you want and you’ll tend to bring it about.
Where is your focus?
Dr. Joe Vitale
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