Have you ever noticed a reoccurring theme in someone’s life?
Maybe even yours?
It’s the same issue again and again, maybe with different characters playing it out, but it’s always the same problem at heart.
Why is it always the same problem?
For example, for most of my life I had problems with money.
I was homeless for a while, lived in virtual poverty for years, declared bankruptcy once, went to court and was fined for bad checks I had written, was constantly in debt and always desperate for money.
I had that same problem for most of my adult life.
Beliefs like these fueled it — though I was unconscious of them at the time — I don’t deserve money, money is bad, money is not spiritual, rich people are greedy, I’ll never succeed, I’m not good enough, business is bad, there’s not enough, etc.
So the life pattern of having money problems surfaced again and again, with my car breaking down, accidents, illness, unforeseen emergencies, etc.
I had the same problem with losing weight.
I spent most of my life, from childhood on, fighting with obesity.
The operating beliefs behind that reoccurring problem — again, most of which were unconscious to me — were diets don’t work, I hate exercise, healthy foods taste like crap, my DNA is wrong, I’m destined to be fat, fat people are safe, fat people are happier, nobody likes me anyway, etc.
I had the best of good intentions for wanting to be healthy and wealthy, but the unconscious counter-intentions stopped them from being manifested.
And that pattern continued until I unravelled the beliefs and broke free.
This is true for all of us.
If you look at your life with an objective eye (knowing that is not fully possible but go with me on this), you’ll see patterns.
Maybe it’s always a relationship issue…or health issue…or money issue…or work issue….or — you name it.
For example, I discovered a pattern in myself that I had been unaware of until last weekend.
Three people I know (or thought I knew), one of whom has been a dear family friend for over a decade, came out with a book slamming The Secret, with me in it, and none of them shared the book with me, or even told me when it came out.
I had to stumble upon it six months after the fact.
I was more upset that none of these friends had the decency to share their project with me, than that they wrote it.*
I was sick for several days.
I was literally ill.
I had a fever, weakness, aching joints, coughing fits, etc.
Every time something happens, there is meaning behind it. When you stop and reflect, you can decode the operating beliefs that brought it about.
In my case I caught a bug, and that bug was named betrayal.
As I looked back, I saw that “betrayal” had been a pattern in my life, just as money issues and obesity once were.
Because of hidden operating beliefs, the pattern came into reality one more time. If you’ve read The Attractor Factor, you know the nightmarish betrayal explained at the end of that book. I’m no stranger to it.
Obviously, I had attracted my experience.
This post isn’t about betrayal, it’s about patterns.
But here’s the good news: once you learn the lesson from the pattern, you no longer need the pattern.
You can actually stop the patterns!
I’ve done it with money.
I’ve learned that the more money I make, the more I can help myself and my world.
Whether it’s a Panoz exotic sports car or a $15,000 therapy machine for a child I don’t know, I’m now able to make the choice and write the check.
It’s a beautiful place to be.
I’ve done it with obesity.
I’ve lost 80 pounds and been in seven fitness contests.
The obesity pattern is history, too.
Now that I’m aware of the old betrayal pattern, I can let it go, as well.
Sometimes all you need is the awareness that you attracted what you got due to your beliefs.
Sometimes you can do EFT on a belief and it will vanish like the wind.
Sometimes you have to sit down and consciously search and find your beliefs, and then choose to let them go as you insert new ones in their place.
And sometimes you have to hire a Miracles Coach to help you climb out of the mental quicksand.
The point, again, is that you and I are co-creating our reality with our beliefs.
If you’ve got a reoccurring pattern in your life, it’s not your fault and it’s not anyone’s else’s fault. It’s simply mental software. It’s a program. You can rewrite it.
That’s how you begin new, healthier, happier patterns.
And you can begin it right now.
PS — Another useful tool for changing patterns is the Subliminal Manifestation DVD set that Mark Ryan and I created. These are topic specific, such as on love and forgiveness, fear, or increasing sales. Take a look.
* What do I think of their book? Thank you for asking. Their book is poorly written, quickly thrown together, packed with emotional ranting, spiced with glaring inaccuracies, and motivated by a desire to capitalize on the very thing they were criticizing. It’s a book designed to take away hope under the guise of being protective. But that’s just my opinion. 🙂 Again, I don’t mind that they wrote the book; I object that they didn’t let me see it in progress, or at the very least share it with me after its publication. As a friend I feel it would have been the decent (read friendly) thing to do. Or maybe that’s just me. If you want to read a rational and readable examination of Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret, get pastor Ed Gungor’s There Is More To The Secret. He talks about God in the same way I talk about the Divine in Zero Limits. Gungor’s book finds some fault with The Secret, but he explains his position in a level headed, well written way. Even disagreement can be an art done with love. Meanwhile, I just keep cleaning, cleaning, cleaning.