How I Attract Women

joe-nerissa-laughing.jpg It happens every time.

I’m at a book store, book signing, coffee shop, store, meeting, standing in line at the post office — it doesn’t matter.

Sooner or later some woman I don’t know will lean a little closer to me.

Some will start to talk to me about the weather.

Some will just flat out say, “Whatever you are wearing is driving me crazy!”

When I was in the make-up room before going on Donny Deutsch’s television show, The Big Idea, the woman there asked me what cologne I was wearing.

“It’s not a cologne,”I said. “It’s an essential oil. It’s a blend of different oils and it’s called Abundance.”

“You should bottle it and sell it,” she said.

Well, somebody already bottles it and sells it.

Gary Young founded Young Living, the company that makes the oils. Their website at says “Young Living’s therapeutic-grade essential oils deliver positive benefits to the body through smell, direct absorption into the skin, and by normal digestive processes. Cleansing, calming, stimulating, soothing, Young Living’s essential oils bring balance to all systems of the body.”

What an under-sell.

No mention at all of how it helps attract women.

abundance-oil.jpg  Their site also says Abundance contains, Orange (Citrus sinesis), frankincense (Boswellia carteri), patchouli (Pogostemon cablin), clove (Syzygium aromaticum), ginger (Zingiber officinale), myrrh (Commiphora myrrha), cinnamon (Cinnamomum verum) and spruce (Picea mariana).

I’m not an affiliate or a distributor for Young Living. But I’ve been dabbing their Abundance oil behind my ears, on my wrists, and on the soles of my feet for about five years now.

I don’t know if it attracts abundance, but it sure attracts women.

Somebody should tell Gary.

Ao Akua,


PS — When I stopped in to visit my Miracles Coaches last week, one of the ladies there shyly walked over to me and said, “I don’t mean to flirt, but whatever you are wearing is driving me crazy!” Works every time. 🙂

Note: Above photo of Nerissa and me is a new one taken by master photographer Rodney Bursiel. I don’t think you can scratch and sniff it, though, otherwise you’d know I was wearing Abundance oil then, too.


  1. bill-Reply
    May 22, 2008 at 8:55 am

    Your headline is proof of the law of attraction. Brilliant!

  2. May 22, 2008 at 8:56 am

    Anyone who knows you would also know that your personality, intelligence, insight, and fun attitude are a huge attractor of women. It’s not just your cologne those women are noticing! 🙂 Great tip, though. I’ll go check it out.

    Together, we are stronger.
    Vicki Flaugher, the original SmartWoman

  3. Nat-Reply
    May 22, 2008 at 9:49 am

    Hi Joe,

    So if we want to order some of this magic elixir how do we do it? The website is asking for a “sponsoring distributor member number”. I don’t want to become a distributor, but I’d like to order some. Do you have a distributor number for us to use (someone else’s if you’re not a distributor yourself)?


  4. May 22, 2008 at 10:34 am

    I simply search for it online with Google and/or eBay. You’ll easily find a way to buy it with a quick search.

  5. May 22, 2008 at 5:18 pm

    Dear Joe,
    That is so cool, I have the same oil! Well if it attracts women to you, do you think it will work for men?!! I’ll bathe in it then! HA! Honestly I was hoping for the $$ attraction. But obviously it brings you $ and chicks! I am applying more from now on! Blessings to you, Dana

  6. Robert Lehrer-Reply
    May 23, 2008 at 12:30 am

    Great piece of copywriting, Joe. That kind of writing could sell snow to an eskimo!

  7. May 23, 2008 at 1:20 am

    I subscribe to your Feedblitz, but have more fun reading your articles here as I like the energy and reading the comments. The title was fun, it caught my attention and was curious about your post. 🙂

  8. Aimee-Reply
    May 23, 2008 at 7:12 am

    Anything for attracting men?

  9. May 23, 2008 at 7:43 am

    Joe – I’m sure there’s more to it than that….

    In the world of writers: YOU ARE A ROCK STAR!

    Let’s look at the evidence:
    You own Steven Tyler’s Panoz…
    You’ve got a collection of guitars Eric Clapton would envy…
    You pack audiences in around the world, spell bound them, and leave with a standing ovation….
    Perhaps the greatest evidence is the Joie De Vivre – the sense of mastery and fun that you bring to your work and your world. You genuinely have fun doing your thing and sharing it with the world.

    In the world of writers – you’re a ROCKSTAR.

    It probably doesn’t hurt that you smell great too…

  10. May 23, 2008 at 11:37 am

    What about the placebo effect? If I bought some Abundance and felt abundant and expected to attract women and eliminated limiting thoughts & feelings, how could I be anything but a magnet. 😎 Who cares? It’s great hedge. I’ll have what he’s having. 😉

  11. May 23, 2008 at 11:49 am

    Hey, it stands to reason, abundance is attractive!

    (Your cute grin might also be a factor, though.)

  12. May 24, 2008 at 3:57 pm

    Dear Joe,

    I think Gary will give you a life time supply of your favorite blend. I would, and you know why I would. Your “power of attraction” is working from your every post. It works for you and everyone you come in touch with.

  13. May 29, 2008 at 3:19 pm

    Hmmm Let me think about this one Joe …..

    I’m sure the magnetic personality, oozing charisma and touch of Shakespearian genius have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with it! Neither do the dimples or the amazing warmth you exude!

    Hey if it keeps you modest by all means, continue to think “It’s just the oil” 😉

    Love and Blessings, Aymee

    p.s. Nerissa and you make the most beautiful couple! I love that pictue 😀

  14. June 2, 2008 at 9:28 pm

    Being yourself also helps attracting women 🙂 I always find men who are happy with himself attractive 😛

    How to Approach a Girl

  15. June 4, 2008 at 5:28 am

    Nice, being aware of the signs women reveal to us without noticing is just one of the tricks.:grin:

  16. Elias-Reply
    June 8, 2008 at 7:49 am

    Hi Joe
    Im just wondering where can I buy this abundance oil
    I live in Australia and im not sure where i can purchase it from.

  17. June 15, 2008 at 12:22 am

    Hilarious! I need to get a bottle for myself.

  18. May 30, 2009 at 11:57 am

    Ver Nice post I enjoy reading it.Thank you for sharing
    Young Living Essential Oils

  19. November 15, 2010 at 7:13 am

    Hi, like your post.
    I think what realy get you noticed by women is confidence
    . If you have it, then you are unstopapble.
    thanks for the post.

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