law of attraction
The Fallacy of Outside Forces
The other night a friend from years ago visited. He’s going through hard times and felt down on his luck. I wanted to help so I asked him to tell me his story.
He began by blaming his life’s downturn on the economy. He said outside forces were to blame. He knew all the right things to do, did them, and yet life just threw rocks at him until he broke down.
I listened and decided that to be of the best service to him, I had to put on my ‘tough love’ gloves and be a good coach.
“There are no outside forces,” I declared.
He looked stunned. I guess he was expecting sympathy. I gave it, but didn’t want to leave him there.
He quickly replied with, “Surely there are things that happen outside of your control that cause you to have bad luck.”
“You attract all of it,” I said, speaking as lovingly but directly as I could.
I added, “There are outside elements out there that can serve you or stop you. What you believe inside you is what causes one or the other to come your way. You set up attractor fields in your life. You attract the outside forces to match what you inwardly expect.”
“But how can I attract all of it when I’m thinking all the right things and doing all the right things?”
I then went into my explanation of how we attract based on our unconscious programming, not our conscious thoughts. I pointed out this is my current life work, explained in my recent books and audios, to teach people how they are attracting what they get based on their inner wiring.
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My friend just looked at me for a second, trying to comprehend what I was saying. He asked, “But why would I take a life that was truly blossoming and cause it to fall apart? I had everything going for me. I had just moved into a big house. Life was great.”
“I don’t know — as there are numerous beliefs that could cause such a thing — but you know.”
“I do?”
I then asked one of my favorite questions:
“What does this life experience mean to you?”
He didn’t understand.
“The meaning you give an event is the belief that attracted it,” I explained. “How do you describe what happened to you?”
“As bad.”
“I know that’s how you see it, but what does it mean that this happened?”
He didn’t know.
I decided to try a different approach. I sat with him, doing my loving coaching, being patient, and explained that at some point early on there was probably a shift in his perception, beliefs or life experience. I asked him to tell me about it.
He was quiet for a while. He reflected and slowly said, “I remember sitting in my new home and thinking my life is so wonderful, that I don’t want to lose all I had created. I was then driven to not lose it all.”
“There it is,” I said. “You were driven by the fear of loss. A part of you didn’t want to lose your good fortune. The thing is, we attract what we love and what we fear. That’s where all the emotion is, which fuels the attractor fields. You attracted the very thing you feared.”
We attract what we love and what we fear.
He allowed that insight to sink in.
“So I set all this up?” he asked. “I did all of this to myself?”
“We all do it,” I explained. “We are unconscious beings here to awaken. These harder life experiences are often there to jolt us awake. No one is to blame. It’s about taking responsibility.”
“But what if I do it again?”
“When you get the lesson, you no longer need the experience,” I said, using one of the popular lines from my book, The Attractor Factor. “You won’t do it again.”
“When you get the lesson, you no longer need the experience.”
We talked for a while longer. He was visibly more relaxed. He thanked me for spending such personal time with him and said he didn’t have people like me to talk to where he lived. I explained that I created Miracles Coaching for that precise reason.
“My own life didn’t transform until I worked with a coach,” I told him. “And that’s why I created Miracles Coaching; to help others.”
The point is, we are unconscious to the drivers in our mind that attract the outside forces we blame for our circumstances.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — C.G. Jung
The field of neuroscience helps prove that fact. You don’t see all of reality. Your brain filters what you see based on your unconscious expectations. You see what you are programmed to see by your beliefs. The outer world is a mirror of your inner world.
If you expect outside forces to help you, you’ll see opportunities.
If you expect outside forces to harm you, you’ll see problems.
Until we awaken, those unconscious drivers will continue to steer us down the road of life. If you’re happy with the results you are getting, enjoy the ride. If you’re not, it may be time to do something about it.
What are you going to do?
Ao Akua,
PS — One thing you can do is relax. You can now hear samples of healing music on my first music CD, Blue Healer, by clicking right here.
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How Much Is Enough?
For almost a year I held phone masterminds (at no pay to me) with a client. It was a win-win because we supported each other in our quest to be the best – or so I thought.
We “Nevillized” our goals.
We “What If Upped” our intentions.
We “remembered” our successes.
It was thrilling, energizing, exhilarating and wonderful.
But one day I told my client that I received another standing ovation at a recent talk. I was sharing my success with someone who I thought would be inspired by it.
He was silent.
I later learned he felt sick.
When I explored why, he said my success made him ill.
“How much is enough?” he asked.
Think about this…
As long as we talked about an imaginary success, it was fine. But when I reported an actual success, it wasn’t fine.
What’s the difference?
In my experience, it’s often safe to imagine what you want but not safe to actually manifest it. Obviously, there’s a deservingness issue there.
When success is out of arm’s reach, it’s fair to fantasy having it; but grasp it and now it’s real.
Do you accept it or push it away?
It depends on your comfort level with success.
And how much is enough, anyway?
At what point is success “too much”?
Who says a certain level of success is acceptable but more isn’t?
I’ve been saying for decades that you can have virtually whatever you want as long as you don’t need it. If you need something, there’s never enough. If you’re satisfied with this moment and just welcome more, than “enough” isn’t even an issue. You just enjoy life. You accept more because it’s joyful to do so.
And looking at this issue even deeper, doesn’t concern over “too much” reveal a belief in scarcity?
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As I explained in my bestselling audio program The Abundance Paradigm, your perception creates your reality. You can look at life and see scarcity or abundance. It depends on your mindset.
Someone who thinks it’s possible to have “too much” success is coming from the scarcity mindset. That’s fine if that’s what you choose. Most of us don’t consciously choose it, though. And once you realize you have a choice, why would you choose scarcity over abundance?
How good can you stand it, anyway?
My client who confronted me about “How much is enough?” when I mentioned my standing ovation, was pulling back from his own potential success. Self-sabotage stopped him. He hit his comfort zone of deservingness.
Decades ago I was taught to be inspired by someone’s success, not jealous of it.
When I was broke and struggling, I learned to see someone driving the nice car or living in the nice house and feel proud of them and inspired by them. It made a huge difference in how I felt about myself, and released energy that I could use to build my own dreams. Today my success is real.
The lesson here is to go for your inspired dreams without reservation or explanation, surround yourself with supportive people who truly want your success as much as you do, and enjoy your adventure forward as every moment is the miracle you seek.
Steve Jobs said —
“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” – Steve Jobs
There’s no such thing as a ceiling on good, happiness, deservingness or “enough.”
Unless you think there is.
What do you think?
How much do you deserve?
How much is enough for you?
Ao Akua,
PS – I am loving the bubbly music of singer Jem (Jemma Griffiths). Here’s her video for her song It’s Amazing (on her latest CD, Down To Earth), which is a great reminder of all that you can do in your life. Life is amazing. You are amazing. Enjoy.
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Attracting Spirituality
On a recent private call for students in my Miracles Coaching program, someone asked me how I achieved my level of spirituality and what they could do to attract it, too. I reflected on the flattering question and came up with the following:
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1. Reading.
I’ve been a bookaholic since I was a teenager. Over the course of 57 years, I’ve read too many books to count. Not all were great. But numerous titles stand out as ones that influenced my spiritual thinking. Emerson and the Transcendentalists movement gave me a deep spiritual insight into the world back in the 1970s. The early Law of Attraction authors flipped me into the stage of empowerment, from William Walker Atkinson to Genevieve Behrend. Neville, of course, awakened me. So did Robert Collier. I’m a fan of everything by Byron Katie and David Hawkins. The Book of est nailed me, as did Why Is This Happening To Me…Again? I’d add listening to self-help audios also made a difference. Decades ago I drove around Houston, often unhappy and looking for work, listening to many programs from Nightingale-Conant. Today I’m published by them. I still read and listen. All of this education informed and inspired me, as well as made me more self-aware. I attribute this on-going study to my success today.
Blues meets Meditation
2. Meditation.
I’ve been doing some form of meditation virtually every day since 1980. At one point it was the Dynamic Meditations of Rajneesh; at another it was sitting in silence and focusing on breathing, or repeating a mantra. Later it was “intentional” meditation, where I visualized what I wanted to have or be. These days it’s usually ho’oponopono. Currently I’m experimenting with drumming as a way to clear and center. I think we need to do whatever it takes to connect to the Divine and hear Its whispered inspirations.
Miracles Coach Janeen Detrick
3. Coaching.
You might think I’m just trying to sell coaching, but the truth is my life didn’t skyrocket until I got a coach. An outside loving observer can help you see your limiting beliefs. It’s not likely you’ll see them on your own because your beliefs will appear as reality to you. It doesn’t have to be Miracles Coaching, but some form of coaching will help you move forward. There are many programs available. Miracles Coaching is just one.
No doubt there’s more to attracting spirituality, but the above have worked for me.
What has worked for you?
Ao Akua,
PS – I don’t know if this will help you attract wisdom or spirituality, but it’ll certainly move you: My first music CD, called Blue Healer, is ready. It contains five long tracks of what I call blues meets trance music, all designed to stir your energies and awaken your soul. More on it later, but for now go see The Blue Healer.
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Who Else Is Listening?
People often wonder why the Law of Attraction doesn’t seem to work for them. I’ve addressed topics like counter-intentions many times, which is part of the explanation. (You don’t attract what you consciously think, you attract what you unconsciously think.) But there’s also the issue of how you train your unconscious mind.
Let me explain:
Who’s listening when you say you are going to do something?
When you make an agreement with a friend, who’s listening besides your friend?
When you make an agreement with a company, who’s listening besides the company?
When you make an agreement with yourself, who’s listening besides you?
When you say you are going to do something – no matter how big or small – you best do it. Not only are other people listening, but so is your own unconscious mind. When you don’t keep your word, you communicate that nothing you say can be trusted.
Rare 1915 Gibson Harp Guitar
I’m not just talking about legal agreements – though that’s part of the point. I’m talking about any agreement you make. And I’m spelling out that an “agreement” is any time you say you will do something.
Agree to meet for lunch at noon? That’s an agreement.
Agree to turn in the report by Friday at 3? That’s an agreement.
Agree to call a friend over the weekend? That’s an agreement.
So why am I stressing that not keeping these agreements is being heard by somebody other than you and whoever the agreement is with?
Here’s why:
Your own unconscious mind is listening.
When you say you will do something, and you don’t do it, you just taught yourself that you aren’t to be trusted. Or believed.
So the next time you say, “I intend to attract the perfect relationship,” your unconscious mind basically says, “How can I believe you? You didn’t keep your word before.”
As I mentioned above, people often wonder why the Law of Attraction doesn’t seem to work for them all of the time. Part of the answer is in how you trained yourself. When you say you intend to do something, and you don’t, you train your unconscious to distrust anything else you say.
But here’s the good news:
By the same token, when you say you will do something — however great or small — and you do it, you just trained your unconscious mind to trust you.
This is a way to build strength, inner conviction, and high integrity. And the next time you declare an intention or request to the Universe, it will believe you.
When you say you will do something, do it.
After all, you’re not the only one listening.
Ao Akua,
PS — Last year I declared I would create a music CD this year. My first one will be out on May 1st. I’ll be posting an article here soon about it, as well as about other “healing music” that you will love. I played a 1915 Gibson Harp Guitar on one track. (Pictured above) Sarah Marie sang on four of the tracks. Exciting stuff. Stay tuned.
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The Secret to Instant Manifestation: Part Two
In the first part of this article I asked you to think about how you created this moment. Your answer will help reveal how to speed up the Law of Attraction. If you haven’t reflected on that question yet, please do so right now.
Go ahead. I’ll wait….
How did you create this moment?
For me, the secret to how you instantly manifest anything (including this very moment) is in your unconscious mind, which is where your programming lives. It holds your life operating mental software.
As a reminder, your programming is your belief system, your mindset or paradigm, given to you from birth (even from before birth). In this post I want to explore how to clean up that programming so you can get the results you prefer.
But first things first.
You need to fully realize that your results aren’t completely coming from positive thinking or positive feeling or even positive doing.
Nope.
Your results are coming from the unconscious beliefs you were programmed with up to now. Based on those beliefs, you have thoughts, which lead to feelings, which lead to actions, which attract results.
In other words, you can think positive all you like but if you have unconscious beliefs about deservingness, for example, you won’t attract what you consciously think about.
And when you don’t, you’ll blame the Law of Attraction, the Secret, and everyone else. You’ll be frustrated, disappointed, and maybe even angry.
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I don’t blame you. I’ve been there. I’ve been broke, unhappy, depressed, despondent and hopeless. When you’re feeling defeated, it’s easy to blame the rest of the world and hard to take full responsibility.
But it’s in taking complete responsibility for where you’re at that real change begins.
Again, you can’t just poke around on the surface of your mind. Affirmations may not be enough. Visualizations may not be enough. Intentions may not be enough. You have to go deeper, into the unconscious where the command center is operating. And again, this isn’t that difficult. You just might need some guidance.
So let’s recap before we go deeper:
What you have right now is exactly what you will allow.
How do I know that?
Because it’s what you attracted based on previous thoughts, feelings and actions. Others joined in “the dance” of life with their own thoughts, feelings and actions, and you ended up co-creating this instant moment. This moment matches your comfort zone, based on your inner set-point of what you believe is possible right now.
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But let’s go even deeper –
What you allow is based on your unconscious programming.
If you’re doing everything right and still not getting the results you want, unconsciously you are getting exactly what you feel is suitable for you. I know it’s hard to believe, at least at first. But your deep seated beliefs about money, love, romance, health, and everything else, is what filters out reality so you only see what is a match to those very beliefs.
Those beliefs got there from conclusions you made throughout life. You’re not to blame for any of it. We’ve all been programmed to various degrees.
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For example, when you watch numerous movies where the wealthy people are corrupt, you unconsciously conclude “money corrupts.”
Later, when you try to manifest some cash, you block it.
It makes sense, doesn’t it?
You wouldn’t want to attract what you think corrupts. So you don’t.
To move beyond all these blocks, you need to get clear of those hidden beliefs.
I’ve written many books and recorded many audios offering guidance on how to get clear, everything from The Attractor Factor and The Key to The Secret to Attracting Money. Many people find using the methods I’ve described is enough. They do them and they make the changes. Done.
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But what about when you try all the methods — whether mine or someone else’s — and you remain pretty much the same?
This is deeper than a blog post can handle, but here’s the answer in short: any counter-intentions in your unconscious will veto conscious intentions.
In other words, if you say “I believe I’ll attract a new job” but underneath it believe, “I’m not worthy of a new job,” or “I don’t have the right skills,” or “The current economy sucks,” then guess what? Those counter-beliefs will attract a match to them.
Follow?
Your un-conscious beliefs will over-ride your conscious intentions.
Given that, how do you change the beliefs in the unconscious?
How the world works
Relax.
There is hope.
Here are some tips:
EFT/TFT. I’ve been a fan of “tapping” since I learned it via Roger Callahan, the creator of it, decades ago. I call it psychological acupuncture. I use it virtually every day. I believe it’s a wonderful tool for erasing and releasing all kinds of concerns. But in all honesty, I’m not sure how deep it can go. I’m sure practitioners of it will swear by it, but I’ve found deep programming in the unconscious mind hard to reach with just tapping meridians. I’m not dismissing it. Again, I love it. I’m just questioning its depth. Many EFT preachers have personal issues they still deal with. If the method worked, all the time, for everything, it would seem they’d be free by now. Maybe it just takes time. Still, it does work.
Roger Callahan
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Ho’oponopono. I wrote the book (Zero Limits, with Dr. Hew Len) on this, so naturally I love it. I’ve been using it since around 2005. It’s saying four phrases (I love you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you) as a type of petition to the Divine to correct any errors of perception. I do believe this works, and goes deep. It goes to the dark corners without you even knowing it. But I’ve also wondered if a faster approach would be better. As a result, I was inspired to create advanced ho’oponopono, which I explain and demonstrate in my new audio program, The Abundance Paradigm. It rocks.
Resources:
Zero Limits
http://www.self-i-dentity-through-hooponopono.com/
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Reframing: I’ve spoken and written about the power of story in my books, and in both key areas of my life, the spiritual (Expect Miracles, etc) and the marketing (Hypnotic Writing, Buying Trances, etc). When you change your story about your life, you suddenly alter an entire belief system. I remember author Leo Buscaglia saying he had a happy childhood. Yet when his sibling was interviewed, he said he had no idea what Leo was talking about. Their childhood sucked. Well, which brother was correct? BOTH. They simply had a different story. You can rewrite your story today. I believe this will cause things to shift in your world. The only snag with this process is that you may write your new story from within the old one. In other words, you’ll be writing a story for a new you from within the old you, meaning the old beliefs may be tinting what you describe.
Resources:
Byron Katie’s The Work
The Lefkoe Method
Bruce DiMarsico's Trilogy
Questioning: I’ve been using variations of The Option Process since the early 1980s. I learned it direct from Barry Neil Kaufman, author of such books as To Love Is To Be Happy With. But I’ve also had many sessions with the original miracles coach, Mandy Evans. In short, it’s a way to question your beliefs with love and curiosity. I’m pleased to report that the creator of Option, the late Bruce Di Marsico, has three volumes of teachings now available, called The Myth of Unhappiness. I also feel that this is a tough process to do on your own. You can do it, but since you’re the belief owner trying to find your own beliefs, which is operating your very looking, it may be sluggish.
Resources:
Mandy Evans
http://www.choosehappiness.net/option-method-store/the-myth-of-unhappiness-the-collected-works-of-bruce-di-marsico/
Coaching: My life skyrocketed when I found a good coach. I had been doing everything right; reading the right books, listening to the right audios, attending the right lectures, and even doing the right things. I had baby step success. But when I got a coach, things exploded. Barriers melted. Why? My own view is that a coach can help you see your belief system and programming. Again, you looking at your own beliefs is a challenge as you are looking from within the very beliefs you need to see. A coach can see from the outside. Obviously, this is the way to go. Because of the power of this, I created Miracles Coaching.
Resources:
Again, I’m not dismissing anything else. I’ve been studying hypnosis since the late 1960s, for example. It’s another powerful tool. So is cognitive therapy. And positive psychology. So are clearing audios.
If you have something working for you, keep using it and tell us about it. But if you’re not attracting what you want, it may be time for a change.
Finally, you might want to remind yourself of this —
You are a work in progress. It’s important to not judge yourself or your process. After all, when will you one day think “I’m done growing! I’ve arrived!”? You’ll be working on yourself till the end. That’s the life adventure. Enjoy it.
So maybe the best news of all is that you can accept yourself and your situation and your process right now, knowing it will transform as you do.
The more you can be happy now, the more you will relax the desperation, release the stuck energy, and slide into a new paradigm.
I’ve said it before and here it goes again: the miracle you seek is right here, right now.
The more you understand that this moment is it, and be grateful for it, the more you will move into the world of instant manifestation.
Expect Miracles.
There’s one right now.
Ao Akua,
PS – I can’t stress enough that the real secret to instant manifestation with Law of Attraction is in truly appreciating this moment. Look around. There’s bound to be something you can be thankful for in this moment. Focus on it. Feel the gratitude. I mean really feel it. The more you do, the more you will morph your energy into one of well-being and happiness, and that very feeling will attract more moments even better than this one. Why not try it right now?
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