How do you attract more of what you want?

What do you do when it feels like nothing is working out for you?

Recently I interviewed Patricia Ryan Madson*, author of the book, Improv Wisdom. You might recall that I wrote about Patricia’s book on this blog on May 1st, exploring the question, “Without you, what would not get done?”

In my interview, Patricia said something that jarred me into a new reality.

She said, “In every moment, we are always receiving far more than we ever give.”

I had to reflect on her statement to truly get it:

In every moment, we are always receiving far more than we ever give.

Patricia went on to explain that right now you are receiving air, blood flow, support from a chair, technology from your computer or other device, light from the sun or your room lights, these words from me, and more.

But we take all of that for granted. All we stop and say thank you for is when someone gives you something or does something specifically for you. But what about everything else? The amount you are receiving right now is almost overwhelming.

Are you aware of it?

Are you grateful for it?

I had dinner one night with Paul Zane Pilzer*, author of The Next Millionaires. He explained over 300 people were involved in preparing our meal. He was referring to the farmers and pickers and distributors and carriers and restaurant owner and cooks and servers and more.

Imagine that. Over 300 people were working to deliver a meal!

I’ve been traveling a great deal again, for TV shows, movies, events, speaking gigs, music production and more. When I stop and think about all the “unseen helpers” who make sure me and my luggage get there on time, or all the “behind the scenes” people who do their jobs sight unseen so my face gets projected over the air to millions of televisions in homes nationwide, it is incredible.

New album "The Healing Song"

New album "The Healing Song"

In order to complete my fourth music album, more people were involved than just my band. I traveled to L.A. and Nashville so Grammy winners could mix and master the music. This is a lot to be grateful for, and can even feel overwhelming when you become aware of it all.

“Wake Up to the Gifts” is the ninth maxim in Patricia’s wonderful and wise little book, Improv Wisdom. She asks us to look for the “unseen” gifts, like the screen and processor allowing you to read these words, or the planet giving you all you need to live and breathe right now.

She also asks us to understand the interdependence of all things.

I can’t write these words without you. You can’t read these words without me writing them.

But it goes further than that. We need the folks who made the computers you and I are using, the Internet providers, the electric company, the people making or delivering our food, handling our flights and our mail, and more. We also need the elements of life itself, that provide both you and me with all we need to stay alive.

You don’t achieve or attract anything by yourself.

Are you aware of that?

Are you grateful for that?

In Improv Wisdom, Patricia suggests you make “Thank you” your mantra.

Of course, in the book I coauthored with Dr. Hew Len, Zero Limits, we suggest you make the four phrases of ho’oponopono your mantra: “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.”

Either way, these methods are tools to help you see what you are receiving is a miracle.

It also is your opportunity to give back.

Since you are receiving so much, what can you do to give more?

You’ll never be able to give in a way that balances all you receive. That’s the miraculous imbalance of life: it’s stacked in your favor.

Think about this. You are receiving so much right now — most of which you were unaware of and took for granted — that you can never give enough to tip the scales. You can never give more than you receive. You are simply receiving way too much.

Think about it this way…

Every time you turn on your TV and flip through the hundreds of channels, remember that those shows were written, produced, directed and performed just for YOU.

Every time you go to the theatre and see a movie or a play, remember that it was made just for YOU.

Every time you turn on the radio and hear your favorite music, commentators, DJs, guest speakers, etc., for your listening enjoyment, again it was all created just for YOU.

When you think about the world honing its craft for YOUR daily entertainment, that’s powerful.

Can you appreciate how much there is to be grateful for?

It might make you think twice before complaining about having to pay $10 for a movie ticket nowadays. After all, the movie you are about to see probably had a budget of millions of dollars. Your investment is very small compared to what it costs to create a multimillion dollar motion picture…JUST FOR YOU!

The “miraculous imbalance” is also a gift to you.

But you probably never thought about it before today.

And here’s where you can begin to attract more of what you want.

Back to our opening questions…

  • How do you attract more of what you want?
  • What do you do when it feels like nothing is working out for you?

It begins by noticing everything you have already attracted.

The thing is, most people focus on what they got that they don’t want, or on want they want that they haven’t attracted yet.

That’s hardly a practical approach to success.

And if you know anything about the Law of Attraction, you know that’s the wrong place to put your attention.

When you notice and acknowledge what you are being given right now, you morph your energy and your mood into something far more magnetic, compelling and loving.

Noticing the good you are already receiving tunes your being into a “good magnet.” You can start attracting even more good because you’ve awakened to the good you have and are continuing to receive. This opens your eyes to the magnitude of life; the magic and miracles all around you.

So the next time you hear anyone say, “I’m not attracting what I want,” realize they are declaring their blindness and deafness to all they have been given and are still receiving. Your job isn’t to correct them. It’s to smile, look around, acknowledge the gifts, and find a way to give back.

That said, what can you do right now to give more?


Ao Akua,


* I interviewed Patricia Ryan Madson (as well as Paul Zane Pilzer) for members of Hypnotic Gold. These are member-only interviews that I’ve been doing for more than seven years now, amounting to well over 80 interviews. For more information, and to find out how to become a member of this select group, just click right here.

PS – One more story of gratitude: When I was growing up, Clint Walker was the cowboy television star I admired. I never stopped to consider how his famous TV series, Cheyenne, entertained me weekly, for years, and yet I paid nothing. It was broadcast right into my parent’s home. Free. Today I realize how grateful I am for Clint and his show. (And my TV set.) He later appeared in many movies, such as The Dirty Dozen and Night of the Grizzly. You might imagine my surprise when I learned Clint Walker is still with us, alive at 85, writing his autobiography, working on a second novel, and selling signed photos and more off his website at  I wrote to Clint, to thank him for all he did to give me a positive role model all those childhood years. I haven’t heard from him yet, and may never. Still, I’m grateful. I’m pretty sure he is grateful for the “miraculous imbalance” in life, too. In the spirit of giving back, here’s Clint Walker from a few years ago sharing life and death stories about listening to your inner voice:

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  1. July 23, 2012 at 2:17 pm

    It’s also good to be reminded about gratitude and appreciation. Although I intend to remember to consciously be thankful for something everyday, it does sometimes slip through the cracks. I’m also reminded about how Abraham-Hicks talks about the difference between gratitude and appreciation, with gratitude often still having some unwanted vibration compared to pure appreciation. At first, I didn’t get that, but as I’ve paid more attention to the feelings, I have started to feel a difference between the two.

  2. July 23, 2012 at 3:53 pm

    Dr Joe I missed u so my cheeks r moist with tears of joy to hear from u again. I posted on ur msgs to my fb, may u b happy & well! PS created Ho’oponopono/Fidem tattoo in homage to all u’ve taught me… Xoxo Di

  3. nadia lopez-Reply
    July 23, 2012 at 4:43 pm

    hola yo estoy conciente de la grandeza de poder de atraccion yo lo he exprimentado como? no se pero hoy por mas k intento no pasa nada,antes con solo pedirlo bastaba pero hoy no se porque no.

  4. July 23, 2012 at 10:32 pm


    Great thoughts on abundance mentality and adding value. I think of it this way: when you open the tap, water will flow and keep coming until you close it. Similarly, we must open ourself to giving, knowing that we can’t give too much, as we’ll always receive more.

  5. kalyan brata patra-Reply
    July 24, 2012 at 6:27 am

    hi joe,
    i am now reading your book zero limits, application of it has made me a great human being, i am grateful to you, to god, to all. thank you, thank you, thank you.

  6. Mathew-Reply
    July 24, 2012 at 7:29 am

    Great post 😉

  7. July 24, 2012 at 10:46 am

    I always loved Clint Walker too! Hiow nice to see that he’s healthy and well, and still looks great. But even better to know that he’s a thoughtful, spiritual man. Thanks for that video.

  8. Mariella Quinci-Reply
    July 24, 2012 at 11:42 am

    Ciao Joe, ho letto circa 10 dei tuoi libri e li trovo meravigliosi. Mi piacerebbe incontrarti ma non saprei come fare. Vivo in Sicilia, a Mazara del vallo e faccio la giornalista. Non parlo inglese e ho difficoltà a capire cosa c’è scritto nella tua pagina.
    Un abbraccio e grazie grazie grazie grazie

  9. July 24, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Hi Joe,

    thanks. That was really good.

    Be happy.


  10. July 24, 2012 at 7:22 pm

    Such a beautiful post. I read it out loud to my husband and we both shared with each other all the many blessings we are grateful for. Thank you for bringing more gratitude into our awareness. YOU are a miracle. Much love!

  11. July 27, 2012 at 8:47 am

    Wow excellent blog post. I had previously been flowing in the attitude of gratitude but it is easy to fall all of observing the little things in life that truly make a difference. I agree when you are flowing in full consciousness and awareness life can take a turn for the better. My life personally became a train wreck from negative thoughts, poor food choices, environmental toxins, stress etc. It wasn’t until I went to college to obtain my degree in Alternative Medicine that I learned how to properly care for my body. I documented my journey in my book “True Confessions of The Heart.”
    Check out my press release that was featured in the health and fitness section, I am trying to get this message out to people around the world and it involves conscious living, positive thoughts, healthy eating choices and empowerment for wellness.

  12. July 30, 2012 at 11:18 pm

    Hey Joe,
    You are absolutely right. Gratitude is the best place to start. It was funny reading the comments below a YouTube meditation video the other day. A number of people were complaining about the music. They didn’t mention the gorgeous imagery, the the inspirational words or the fact they were watching it for free… they focused on what they didn’t like. How much you want to bet, it sucks to be them! lol
    Love “your stuff”! Have a great day! 🙂

  13. November 22, 2012 at 10:32 am

    Thank you Joe! it was the right time for this post!

  14. Giovanni Thiene-Reply
    November 22, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Dear Joe,
    this post like all of the other ones is amazing and after the reading i feel so good, grateful, happy, 100% connected to the world around me.
    I do really appreciate your work, i feel already made! …magic..
    Congratulations and have a fantastic day.
    Cheers from Brisbane, Australia.


  15. Andrew-Reply
    November 23, 2012 at 10:04 am

    Hi Joe!
    I very appreciate all your efforts in helping people being awakened!
    Your blog is amazing and very helpful! I love your audio 🙂
    I have one question: I extremely want to buy your “Blue healer” music. But there is a little bit concern – I’m not American and can’t purchase “Blue healer” from Could I order this excellent music from another place? Thanks in advance!

    I’m so happy to explore the life with you!
    Have a great day!

  16. November 23, 2012 at 10:18 am

    I really enjoyed this Joe. It is a good thing to be reminded that we have so much to be grateful for. I thought the interview with Clint Walker was pretty awesome as well. Happy Thanks Giving to all you Americans 🙂

  17. Gurmeet-Reply
    November 24, 2012 at 11:50 am

    I m thankful that I am thankful for all the time..

  18. May 20, 2016 at 9:57 am


    Thank you, thank you for this post. I needed this today. I needed to be reminded of all to be thankful for. I love your blog and your products you provide for me. Right now, I’m listening to your Law of Attraction library, and I have Awakened Millionaire waiting for me after that. You are my hero and my unknowing mentor.

    Thanks again,

    Love and light,


  19. Angelyka-Reply
    May 20, 2016 at 11:30 am

    Thank you Joe ♡ Blessings, love, and light brother

  20. Danielle-Reply
    May 20, 2016 at 12:44 pm

    Dear Joe, today was the day for the: ”why me, with tears Rolling down on my cheeks”. Then your kind: The Miraculous Imbalance message appeared on my computer screen. It helped me realize that I always want more and take forgranted everything that I am being given right now, as a blessing. So I must thank you and all of your great helpers for giving me that particular message TODAY! It feels wonderful to have you coming into my life with messages like this one. I thank you from the bottom of my hearth.
    P.S.: Can you please tell me where I can get your book : The secret Mirror in Canada as, so far, 3 big librairies cannot get it for me. Tk Y.

    • May 22, 2016 at 5:52 am

      Hi Danielle. There isn’t a book called The Secret Mirror. Do you mean The Secret Prayer?

  21. Beverly Woodruff-Reply
    May 20, 2016 at 3:30 pm

    Joe, Thank you ever so much for sharing your gratitude with me you know how very true we all take for granted ,this was quite the eye opener you made my day and I especially loved the Clint Walker clip. That brought tears. I passed it on to my son whom resides Incarcerated, It really humbled him also .Tank you for all you do. Beverly Woodruff in colorado

  22. Angel-Reply
    June 23, 2016 at 8:30 am

    I need a miracle

    • June 23, 2016 at 9:11 am

      You already have one. Reread the post.

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