My presentation a few years ago on ho’oponopono is still the second most popular video I’ve ever posted. It was after my book, Zero Limits, and before the sequel, AT Zero. If you missed it, here it is again:
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Speaker 1: Next, one of the stars of The Secret steps up to the bully pulpit to help you take control of your destiny.
Joe Vitale: Well, this is powerful because most people don’t know they have counter beliefs within themselves.
Donny Deutsch: We’ve been talking about chaos and control all night. Okay, now I’m gonna light a fire under you to take control and make those millions. I’ve got the high octane jet fuel motivation for you right now. Joe Vitale. He’s a guy that gets paid thousands of dollars to inspire people to go for their dreams. He’s one of the starts of the wildly successful inspirational DVD “The Secret”. He’s written more than 30 motivational books, and his newest book, The Key, sold more than half a million copies in three months.
Joe Vitale, welcome to The Big Idea, man.
Joe Vitale: Hey. Thank you for having me.
Donny Deutsch: You’re a guy who’s gone from being homeless …
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: … sleeping in doorways, to a guy who’s making millions, so nobody knows more about taking control than you. Let’s give the secrets for those folks at home about taking control.
Joe Vitale: Number one is, “Watch your show.” I gotta tell you, I opened for Donald Trump in Chicago just a couple weeks ago. I have 30 minutes to talk. I could be promoting my own books, my Miracles Coaching program. What do I do? I say, “Everybody here should be watching Donny Deutsch.”
Donny Deutsch: We like that one.
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: Okay.
Joe Vitale: So I got five steps that I tell people. Okay?
Donny Deutsch: Doing that.
Joe Vitale: The very first step is, “Know what you don’t want.” Now that may sound obvious. You may be sitting there complaining about everything, but you gotta know that is your benchmark. You use that as your spring to go to number two.
Number two is, “Check your intention.” Intentions are powerful, Donny. Intentions rule the earth. When you state an intention, you realign your body and mind to go in the direction of a new target. That’s powerful.
Donny Deutsch: So getting on all that stuff you were saying. Start with-
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: When you … Give me an example of what, “Okay, I don’t want this, so now I’ve gotta refocus to my intention.”
Joe Vitale: Well, no. It … A lot of people are complaining about they don’t want their bills, they don’t want to be unemployed, they want more money coming in, they want more clients, they wanna feel better. There’s all kinda complaints.
Most people leave it on the level of a complaint. Stop complaining. In fact, take the 21 day challenge that’s in the book, a complaint free world, and stop complaining. Instead, turn it around and do what you do want. So if you don’t want all the bills, what do you want instead? You want enough cash to pay for those bills. State a new intention for what you want. Then you start going in the direction of that, a new intention.
The third step is to “get clear”. Now this is powerful, because most people don’t know they have counter beliefs within themselves. Counter intentions, Donny. They may say, “I want success,” but inside themselves, they may be saying, “I don’t deserve success.” They may say they want money, but you may be telling yourself, “Money is bad. Rich people are evil. Corporations are out to get everybody.” You gotta clean that up. When you clean that up, you go in the direction of what you want. Now you’re clear. So the third step, Donny, is to get clear.
The fourth step is to what I call, “‘Nevelize’ your goal.” “Nevelize” your goal means to feel what it would be like to already attain the thing you want. So if you have the more money coming in, you got more sales coming in, you got a big deal, you end up on Donny Deutsch’s show, you got some kinda great success, at that point, what does that feel like? When you anchor the feeling within yourself, you are accelerating the process of going to it. You kick in your passion. Passion rules. Passion is your ticket to success. You know that. I know that. You out there probably already know that.
The fifth thing that you wanna do is you let go while taking inspired action. Now this is important to understand. Letting go means you’re letting go of desperation, your addiction, your attachment to the end result. All you wanna do is focus on your passion. When you focus on your passion, you naturally take the actions. You must take action. Too many people, maybe some of the people who are watching right now, are just sitting there. They’re not taking action going for what they want.
Those are the five steps.
Donny Deutsch: It’s easy to say, “Take action.” I’m listening to Joe at home …
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: …. and going, “Hey, you know, I’d love to visualize that new car or that new company I’m gonna start. I’d love to get rid of my bills and turn that into cash, and” … But how do you then …
I go, “Okay, I’m in it. I’m with you. Let’s go, boy. Well, let’s do it.” How do I … How do I get it going? How do … What does that all mean?
Joe Vitale: Yeah.
Donny Deutsch: Translate that for me.
Joe Vitale: Okay. Well, the first thing, we gotta go back to step three. So we’ve already gone through the first couple steps. I know what I don’t want. You know what you do want. The third step is getting clear, so there’s a lotta garbage that you just put up there. You were just saying, “I don’t know what I’m gonna do. I don’t know what the next steps are. I don’t know what to do, what action to take.”
When you get clear of the beliefs within yourself that are questioning your own deservingness and your own attitudes towards money or attitudes towards success, your attitudes towards wealthy people and wealth in itself, then you get cleared up so that you know what the actions are, and I say the actions you take, Donny, are inspired action, not just any old action.
Inspired action means it comes from in here. It comes from inside your heart. It comes inside your passion, your soul. The very soul of your being will tell you what to do next, and it’s unique to you, and it may be something like … You had a woman on your show one time who invented this purse, and she got this wild idea. I don’t know that I would have done it, but it was for her. She got on a plane and went to China with no appointments. She didn’t know anybody over there. She went by herself, she got off the plane, and she made cold calls in China to find somebody to make her product. That was inspired action unique to her. Your inspired action will be unique to you. You pay attention to what your intuition is saying, what your gut is saying, and that’s what you act on. Thank you.
Donny Deutsch: Joe Vitale, bestselling author, a guy who was down on his butt, back up, making millions. You could do it, too. More big ideas right ahead.
Brian Rose of London Real interviewed me while I was in London. The following is a excerpt where we discuss the Hawaiian healing practice called Ho’oponopono and how you can use it to produce clarity and spiritual healing in your life.
Brian: Tell me about this Hawaiian practice that you go through. It involves, I believe repeating a set of four mantras in your mind. Tell me a bit about it because it’s interesting.
Oh, it’s fascinating. We need a lot more time to talk about it. I wrote two books about it, Zero Limits, and 10 years later, I wrote At Zero. This book has changed millions of lives. It’s the true story of a therapist who helped field an entire ward of mentally ill criminals by using this Hawaiian process called Ho’oponopono. Now, you don’t need to remember Ho’oponopono, but I’ll tell you how simple it is.
There’s four statements, and what the therapist was doing, he was working at a hospital for the mentally insane. These people were shackled and sedated because they were so dangerous. They were murderers, they were rapists, they were violent. The hospital couldn’t keep staff, it couldn’t keep doctors. In a desperate attempt to get a doctor on call, they found this Hawaiian therapist who said, “Well, I’ll go and I’ll be there as your therapist, and you’ll satisfy your state requirements, but I’m not going to do traditional therapy. I’m going to do Ho’oponopono.”
So he started doing Ho’oponopono, these four phrases, and as he did it, those patients got better. They didn’t have to be shackled. They didn’t have to be sedated. In a few months, they started to be released, being pronounced as healed and whole. In four years, that ward was closed. I researched this, I interviewed him, I wrote Zero Limits, which is the story about this. I did seminars with the therapist. And the four phrases are so simple. He is saying these four phrases inside himself to his connection to the universe, to God, to the divine, to Gaia, whatever you want to call that higher power, we all have different words. I call it the great mystery or the great something. And he’s saying inside himself, “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” And, “Thank you.” I love you.
I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. That’s all.
So what’s happening? When he was looking at the charts of these criminals, he’s looking at their charts, he’s not looking at the criminals. He’s looking at their charts, he’s feeling emotion. He’s feeling embarrassed, rage, anger, guilt, any number of different things. He wants to clear those emotions. It’s not trying to heal the patient. The patient is triggering emotions in him. So whatever’s being triggered in him, he’s feeling it, and he’s kind of talking to the divine, the universe, the great something, the great mystery. “Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I’m sorry.” It’s a shorthand petition or a prayer where he’s saying, “Please forgive me. I don’t know what part of me or my ancestors helped create this person, this belief system in them, it must be in me if I’m noticing it in them. I’m sorry for any part of my role in this.” Even though he wasn’t physically involved with any of it, he’s taking responsibility. “I’m sorry for any part of that. Thank you for healing this, for erasing this, for removing this. I love you for this healing, for this clearing, for my life, for this rejuvenation.”
As a result of saying those four phrases over, and over, and over again, those feelings in him disappeared. So he’s removing his beliefs, he’s removing his emotion, and getting back to that little spiritual vibe that I said earlier was going through him. As a result of him getting to peace, the patients responded to it and got better. Now, let’s take this by extension. For everybody that’s watching this, for you and me, I have heard from tens of thousands of people who have used these four statements for money problems, relationship problems, health problems, animal problems, employer problems, business problems, world problems, everything. Everything.
And what’s happening is there’s a couple fundamental concepts. One is you have to accept total responsibility for whatever you’re noticing. So if you don’t like whoever is in the political party right now and you’re blaming them for everything, not in Ho’oponopono. In Ho’oponopono, you have to look within yourself and say, “Some part of me helped create this, and if I don’t like it, I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you. Please heal it, please clear it, please remove it.”
You do this for whatever is surfacing in your life. You’ve got a relationship problem, somebody at work, an employer or employee, health problem, anything like that, you notice that you’re noticing it. The therapist used to say, “Have you ever noticed that when there’s a problem, you are there?” Meaning, you’re the common denominator. You are participating in this problem unknowingly. So you take responsibility for it even not knowing how you are responsible in whatever crazy way.
So you take responsibility like, “Okay, I see that I’m not getting along with my sister, but it’s not my sister, it’s my perception of my sister. The problem is over here.” The sister is a trigger. The trigger is here in me. It all goes back to everything we’ve been talking about, it’s all inside, and it’s coming from a belief. One way to change that belief, that perception is with Ho’oponopono. I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. Saying it to the divine, the great something, the great mystery until that dissolves.
Brian: Okay, so say I see President Trump acting out in a way that bothers me, right?
I’m sure this happens to a lot of people, right?
Brian: Right. Yeah.
And maybe in some ways that they like as well, but again, people always say, when you see something in someone else, it’s a reflection of that thing inside of you that you don’t like. Nobody wants to hear that, Joe.
Okay. So say in this case, I see him, I don’t know, whatever, separating migrant families. So first of all, those four mantras, one of them shows me that maybe I am somehow part of this whole occurrence. Somehow there’s something in me that might have contributed to this behavior, or the lack of action in me, or whatever it is, so I have to take ownership of that. And is that through one of those phrases?
Through all four of those phrases.
Through all four of those phrases. So when I’m saying-
I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.
I love you, I’m saying I love you to the world, to Trump, to the situation?
I say it to the great something. In other words, I’m saying thank you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, and I love you to the great something. I am not speaking to another person, and I never say them out loud. I would never say them to you. If I had a problem with you, I wouldn’t be saying it directly to you. I wouldn’t walk up to you and say, “Hey, I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.” You would have no clue what I was doing. It would be internal because I would go, “Oh, if I have a problem with him,” which could be Trump, it could be anybody. “If I have a problem with anybody out there, the problem is in me.” It’s my perception that is causing me pain. I clean my perception and the outer will get better.
Brian Rose of London Real interviewed me while I was in London. The following is a excerpt where we discuss the Law of Attraction and I talk about three action steps you can take to create change in your life.
Brian: What can people know, right now, or learn from you, right now, about this concept of this Law of Attraction, as far as what you think about and what you really concentrate ends up what you bring into your life? I mean, what are some basic elements of that? I’ve heard you talk about this in detail, but I still think most people don’t know how to actually practice it.
Yeah. The very first the step is you have to become aware of your current thinking. Most people don’t realize that their thoughts are in the toilet, that their listening to themselves say negative things about 70,000 times a day.
70,000. There are some research studies that are showing its higher than that.
The other thing that’s more startling is that they’re mostly repetition. They’re the same thoughts. They are things like, “I’m not good enough. It’s not gonna work out. This stuff works for other people. Works for Joe Vitale, but it doesn’t work for me. Works for people in The Secret, but it doesn’t work for me.” They wanna do things, but they think, “The economy’s wrong. The President’s wrong. The timing is wrong. I don’t have enough education. I don’t have enough experience.” All of these kinds of negative thoughts keep people shut down. They don’t go for their dreams, they react to life, they kinda crawl through life with no enthusiasm, no sort of energy and no belief in themselves or the possibilities of something better.
What the Law of Attraction is teaching people is that you have a choice. You can change your thinking. One way to look at this is that the thoughts you’re having right now are primarily negative, so that’s the first thing to notice, your thought are primarily negative.
The second one is you’re not your thoughts, you’re separate from your thoughts. This is massive Earth-shaking news, if somebody’s hearing it for the very first time. There’ve been books that are called You Are Not Your Mind, You Are Not Your Brain. What they’re saying is these thoughts that we’re having, we’re having them. We’re not them. If we can detach enough to go, “Oh, here comes that ‘I’m not good enough,’ thought, again,” and let it go by; we’re one step removed from it. Now, we’ve clipped off that energy that was causing us to feel bad because of that thought. That’s the second step is to become aware that I’m not my thoughts.
Third step is to start to generate what you do want to think. This is where things like affirmations, positive thinking, positive statements. Instead of saying I’m not good enough, begin to say I am good enough. Begin to say this can work out for me. If this material has worked for other people, why can’t it work for me, too? I’m human. They’re human. You can start to rebuild your software of the mind, if you want, if you will. These are all elements.
Then, we can get into details, like what you’re going to tend to bring into your life are things that you think about a lot. Most people think about the things they’re afraid of, the things that they’re worried about. I tell people, “Why don’t you start thinking about the things you love, the things you’re passionate about? You’re gonna go in a new direction. You’ll be happier, you’ll be healthier, you’re gonna have better momentum, better enthusiasms, so the repetition of that is gonna be a big thing.
Emotion, going with those feelings of passion, is going to fuel you to go into a direction that you prefer. Actually having an image, and the image could be a graphical representation of what you want. It could be a house, it could be a car, it could be a job, it could be a pile of money, it could be spiritual awakening, whatever you can do because the brain, the reticular activating system in the brain, responds to repetition, imagery and emotion.
All of this is in the direction of … it’s like a condensed course in how to redirect your life by becoming aware that you’re not your thoughts. Those negative thoughts you can let them go, you can start to create new thoughts, you can actually aim where you wanna go by choosing what you want, getting an image of what you want, fueling it with passion and love. Then, you can start to create it, almost organically and automatically.
I received my private pilot’s license back in 1972.
It was an intense ten week program at Kent State University. I’d call it a “crash course” but that seems counter useful for a program on flying planes.
I was 18 years old, fresh out of high school, and in love with flying. I found the course to be the hardest thing I had ever done in my life till then, and for decades after.
I also had some scary moments, like the time I got lost.
I wasn’t yet a licensed pilot, but I was skilled enough to fly solo.
One day I mapped out a cross country solo flight. I got out my compass, maps, highlighter, checked the weather, and did all the manual things you had to do back in the days before instruments and apps.
I took off.
I remember it being a cool, clear day in Ohio.
I always found it meditative to be solo in a plane, high in the sky.
I enjoyed the peace and scenery.
I looked out the window, searching for a check point to confirm I was on my path. I looked around but couldn’t find it.
I don’t recall if it was a water tower or some other landmark. But not seeing my checkpoint made me wonder if I was on course.
I kept flying, looking for my second checkpoint.
I couldn’t find it, either.
Now I was getting concerned.
I looked at my folded map, verifying my route and the checkpoints. They were clearly on the map, but not anywhere in view from the cockpit.
So I decided to start looking for the signs.
I flew to the left, then to the right, then randomly in any direction that seemed promising.
Before long, I knew I was lost.
I’m a solo pilot, on an alone cross country flight, and I have no idea where I am.
I assume I was still in Ohio.
But Ohio isn’t as big as Texas. I may have flown into another state.
Part of our pilot training is to identify runways on the ground, even small ones that a farmer might have, or an abandoned road.
So I started looking for a place to land.
As my flying adventure continued, and my heart raced, I spotted a small runway and a small hanger.
I aimed toward it, got into the landing pattern, and landed.
I got out of the plane and walked to the hanger.
There was a small coffee shop inside. I still wasn’t drinking coffee back then, but I ordered a cup.
I acted like all was right with the world.
Then I decidedly to ask the person making my coffee an important question.
“Excuse me, but could you tell me where I am?”
I got her attention.
It was clear I was lost.
She helped me look at my map, explained I wasn’t too far from Kent State, and helped me reroute my way home.
I got back in the plane, took off, and headed back to my destination.
As soon as I landed, my flight instructor asked what happened.
I told him I had been lost.
He immediately ordered me back into the plane.
He wanted to retrace my steps and see what I did wrong.
Back in the air, I followed my original map.
I again looked at the window for my checkpoint.
But again I couldn’t find it.
My instructor took the wheel, titled the plane, and pointed out the window.
“You were right over the checkpoint!”
I was never lost at all.
I was right on my path, until I began to doubt and question myself.
My instructor explained that checkpoints have to be seen out the left or right side of the plane. You can’t see them if you are right on top of them.
I also learned that throughout my life, whenever I thought I was lost, I reminded myself that I was probably right on my path, only thinking I was lost.
Is there such a thing?