When I drove Mandy Evans back to the airport, she asked me an interesting question:
“Have you always encouraged people?”
She had spent four days with me and observed me encouraging complete strangers to go for their dreams.
There was an author at a booth and I bought his book and advised him on how to market it.
There was a waitress struggling to get to all her tables and I tipped her more than the bill to encourage her to have a great day.
There was the newbie restaurant owners that I encouraged by designing and distributing an insert ad to tell the locals about their great food.
There was of course Diane Watson, who is now The Property Hugger.
So Mandy wanted to know if I was always encouraging of others.
“No,” I instantly replied. “When I was younger I was angry at the world and didn’t encourage anybody. I was into survival and focused on trying to write, get published, and just generally survive.”
I knew what question was coming next, and I knew I didn’t have a quick answer for it.
“Then when did you start encouraging people?”
I thought for a long time. I honestly couldn’t come up with an answer by the time I dropped off Mandy at the terminal.
But I’ve been chewing on it ever since.
I told Nerissa about the question. As I free associated an answer, she said she heard the word “love” used a lot.
“Love is part of why I do it,” I said. “I love seeing a person come alive with the passion they secretly want to express. But I also know that when you love a person with total acceptance, they feel free to become whatever they desire.”
But I still couldn’t pin-point the time when I began to do this encouraging on a regular basis.
Pat O’Bryan and I had dinner one night and I told him the above story. He then began to probe, trying to get me to narrow down the year and possibly the event that caused me to become encouraging of others.
“I remember reading books that awakened me to the idea that if we focus on the good, we’ll get more good,” I explained.
Marva Collins is a school teacher in Chicago who taught me, through the stories and books by and about her, that when you focus on the positive in a person, and nurtured and encouraged them, they would blossom.
Marva took inner city kids that were considered retarded, special, and/or illiterate and transformed them within months into kids who read Shakespeare and tested at grade levels five times higher than kids of the same age.
Decades ago I was teaching adult education classes in Houston for a company called Leisure Learning. I would try the Marva Collins approach in my classes. I marvelled to see people get excited, take action, and go on to write and publish their own books. They needed encouraged, not just informed.
Pat listened intently as I went on to explain that I also studied Win Wenger, the creativity genius who teaches people how to raise their IQ with simple exercises he created.
Whatever you focus on will expand.
“It didn’t take long for me to begin using these methods on myself,” I told Pat. “I’d encourage myself and focus on what I wanted. As it worked for me, I realized it would work for others. So I started encouraging people.”
I was also lucky enough to have been married to a woman who was supportive of every idea I came up with, even when we were broke and taking risks could have been seen as a bad move. But Marian focused on the good in me, saw potential, and watered it with her love.
Over time it became easier to encourage people because it felt good, I saw results, and people loved it. So few of us get support that when we suddenly have it, we drink it up like a starving person in the desert.
I’ve taught my Miracles Coaches this same general idea. It’s the prime directive of my life: Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.
Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.
During the meal, the waitress came to Pat and I and asked what we needed. Neither of us needed a thing. We were in the moment. We were happy. But I decided to ask what she needed.
“Nothing,” she said. “One day I want to open my own restaurant but right now I’m just waiting tables.”
Pat and I exchanged glances and he winked. He knew this was my opening. I turned to the waitress and began to encourage her to do something, anything, to make her dream come true.
I have no idea if she’ll actually do anything, but she smiled big and thanked me for the encouragement.
In your own case, as you sit there and read these words, you might ask who is encouraging you and who are you encouraging?
Who are you encouraging?
If you want encouragement, consider my Miracles Coaching program. There’s nothing like constant support and encouragement to achieve your goals and intentions.
If you want to encourage others, begin right now. Listen, really listen, when people talk to you. You’ll often hear their secret wish. When you hear it, focus on it, if only for a moment.
It’s how dreams come true.
PS — I thank Mandy for asking her great question. I still don’t know exactly when I started to encourage people, but I’d guess around 1982. Yet Mandy’s question led to some deep self-reflection, some deep conversations, and to this blog post. If you liked it, please share it with others. Who knows, you just might encourage someone to dare something worthy.
Note: Pat O’Bryan interviewed me about this topic last night for his weekly online TV show. It was recorded and you can view it at www.portableempire.tv/ Simply look for the 6-17-08 show with me. Then click on it. Enjoy.
Diane Watson moved from Pennsylvania to Texas when her husband transferred to a new job.
She became depressed.
She didn’t know anyone. Didn’t have a job. Missed her family and friends and familiar surroundings.
She found my book The Attractor Factor, read it, applied it, and began to do things that made her happy.
She smiled more. She became a realtor. She made friends.
And then she discovered that the author of The Attractor Factor lived down the street from her.
You might imagine her surprise.
She wanted to meet me but was nervous. She saw my bright yellow Steven Tyler Panoz AIV Roadster outside a coffee shop and knew I was inside. She got out of her car, took a picture of my car, and left.
She saw me walking to my mail box one day as she drove past, and instead of saying hello, she ducked behind the steering wheel and stepped on the gas.
She wrote me a long letter, sent it by snail mail to me, and I read it and replied to it. But she never wrote back.
We finally met at a party. I liked her instantly and we arranged to have lunch.
Over lunch Nerissa and I learned she was a realtor. We told her our plans for a green mansion. Diane took on the project. She’s been helping us find the right property ever since.
But something else happened at that lunch.
Diane told me she had been studying my marketing material, too, and loved my book on P.T. Barnum, There’s a Customer Born Every Minute.
She told us she had a dream of opening a site that would be a one-stop clearing spot for people wanting to buy or sale land or homes anywhere in the country.
But she wasn’t sure if it was a good idea, or if she could do it.
I saw the diamond in the rough and encouraged her to take action.
“But where do I start?” she protested. “There are rules and regulations for each state. And I don’t know how to make a website. Or how to get traffic to it. Or what to call the site. Or –”
Her list of objections went on and on.
Both Nerissa and myself encouraged Diane to start now, and to start with something. As she took action, I explained, the next steps would become clear.
Well, the other night Diane came by to pick us up in her new car (which she says she attracted with my attract a new car program) and with new business cards proudly displaying her new website: www.propertyhugger.com
She is going for it.
This is how dreams become realities: you start with whatever you can do, learn what you need to know for the next steps, and just keep moving forward.
It helps to have encouragement, of course. That’s why I have a Miracles Coaching program. But maybe you, like Diane, don’t need it. (Actually, Diane had me has her neighborhood Miracles Coach.)
Whatever the case, begin and begin now.
Go for your dreams.
PS — In my next post I’ll answer the question, “When did I start encouraging people, and why?” It’s an eye-opener.
Mandy Evans is the first Miracles Coach. She knew me when I was poor and desperate, and helped me. She knew me when I was unpublished and struggling, and encouraged me. She knew me when my wife died, and helped heal me. She recently came to visit me, and we had a blast. Her version of the story is on her blog here http://beliefbreakout.blogspot.com/2008/06/best-thing-about-abundance.html And you can see me interacting with her on a short video clip here www.youtube.com/watch?v=9v8nM2PAacw or by clicking the below image. Don’t bother trying to hire her, though, as she’s retired from miracles coaching. That’s why I set up www.miraclescoaching.com You can get her books at Amazon or off her site www.mandyevans.com Enjoy. 🙂
Just today I received the title for the latest car I attracted, a 1976 Jaguar XJS V-12. Not only is the car itself a collectible classic, but it was owned by legendary bodybuilder and movie star, Steve Reeves.
It appears I’m starting to collect celebrity cars. The car before this one was the exotic 1998 Panoz AIV Roadster, a rare hot rod no longer made that was once owned (and is signed) by rock star Steven Tyler of Aerosmith.
I have a few other cars, of course, not the least of which is my beloved Francine, a 2005 Panoz Esperante GTLM.
But this post isn’t about attracting cars.
It’s about how I’m attracting money beyond belief to buy these cars.
Last week we looked at a mansion on a lake. It was listed at almost two million dollars. It’s got twenty-five acres and almost enough garage for all of my cars. It wasn’t good enough for us, though.
We then drove around and looked at yet another mansion, this one castle-like, plenty of space for a car collection, and selling for over six million dollars.
But this post isn’t about buying a mansion, either.
It’s about how I’m attracting the money to buy it.
I’m getting closer to announcing Operation YES, too.
That’s my vision to end homelessness forever by focusing on prosperity, not economic depression, and by using the law of attraction to help the planet.
But this post isn’t about attracting global change; it’s about how I attract money.
When I stop and think about my life, I’m in awe that thirty years ago I was homeless and today I’m a bestselling author who appears in movies and on television, and spends most of his evenings in the hot tub thinking about cars, guitars, cigars, mansions, and ways to help people and the planet.
How did that happen?
About twenty-five years ago I was in virtual poverty and taking every job I could think of to survive, while I maintained my vision of one day being an author.
I was a reporter, laborer, cab driver, truck driver, car salesman, freelance writer, literary agent, editor, geological technician, and more.
I lived in a dump, drove a clunker of a car, and was very unhappy.
How did I go from struggling to thriving?
I admit it wasn’t an overnight event. I think people have a better chance of being an overnight success today than I had back then.
Because my biggest stumbling block was my own mind, and today we have more tools to help you correct your thinking.
Back then, I didn’t feel I deserved success. I had a bad attitude toward wealthy people and even money itself. I was like most people, programmed into being a victim and thinking of lack and limitation.
I had low self-image and poor self-confidence. I was doing everything I could think of to be a success, but it wasn’t happening.
I’ve said this many times before but it needs said again: your level of deservingness has to match what you want.
Your level of deservingness has to match what you want!
If it doesn’t, you’ll either not attract what you want or, if you manage to get it, you won’t keep it. You’ll find a means to push it away.
So, how did I learn how to attract money?
The secret is this: I learned to deprogram old limiting beliefs and reprogram new abundant ones.
Say you want more money.
You state the intention “I now attract more money into my life.”
You sit, meditate, feel the good vibes of having more money.
If you’re smart, you might even take some action.
But — the money doesn’t come.
Does any of this self-help stuff work?
Why didn’t you attract what you intended?
Isn’t the law of attraction a real law?
Most likely in your unconscious mind you have beliefs such as —
“Money is evil.”
“Money will attract problems.”
“Money will make me a selfish person.”
“Wanting money is greedy.”
“Rich people are snobs.”
If you have one or more of those limiting beliefs within you, do you really think you’ll attract any money?
In truth, you’ll attract not having money.
Because your unconscious counter-intention (“Money is bad”) will veto your conscious intention (“I now attract more money into my life”).
Obviously, once you clear those hidden blocks/beliefs to your success, your success has nothing in the way of it happening.
The roadblocks are gone.
But how do you get clear?
After all, the unconscious limitations are un-conscious!
So how do you find them and erase them?
I’ve been developing different ways to help myself and others get clear for years now.
And I keep looking for faster, easier ways to accomplish this. I keep creating audios, DVDS, books, and more.
There’s everything from my recent book The Key to my bestselling new Nightingale-Conant audio program The Missing Secret to the popular DVDs (made with Mark Ryan) on Subliminal Manifestation, and much more at my main website.
I wish I had these tools thirty years ago.
One of those tools is so easy it might be called the lazy person’s tool for instant change: I joined forces with Pat O’Bryan and together we created The Clearing Audio.
This breakthrough audio works so well that people are sending us unsolicited raving endorsements, such as —
“I just wanted to share with you since I bought the clearing audio just 48 hours ago (yes 48 hours ago) I feel more calm, less stressed about life and my business…”
That’s what John and Chystal Pate said.
“Joe, I just want you to know that I am positively stunned by the effectiveness of the Clearing Audio. I downloaded them, dropped them on my ipod and used the binaural music track during my morning meditation, I was not only charged with positive energy, but I had amazing and inspired new insights for product ideas, AND I had several inbound requests for big time joint ventures. Wow. But that’s not all. A little later in the morning I ran it again while I was training (exercise). UNBELIEVABLE results, more energy, more power, faster recovery. It is my new secret weapon. You’re amazing. Thank you!”
That’s what Steve Little said.
But back to me and how I learned to attract more money.
The number one thing I did was get coaching. I talk about this a lot in my book The Attractor Factor.
Clearly having a coach to help me see my own thought patterns and then release them was the number one thing I did to transform my prosperity.
If you’re skeptical, consider:
I was working hard, taking action, maintaining my vision and intention for decades.
I was doing all the right things.
Yet success eluded me.
It would still be eluding me today had I not taken care of the only thing in my way: my own mind.
If you want to attract more money, too, then you have to begin on the inside. Make the change there and the outer will change, almost by magic.
But remember, even magic takes a magician.
That magician is you.
PS — I started my own coaching program because I knew it changed my life and could change yours, too. If you want to get on track and clear yourself for success, go see www.miraclescoaching.com It’s real magic. 🙂
PPS – Don’t make excuses. If you judge me or my coaching program (or anyone or anything else that is trying to help you), then you are just like I was thirty years ago: blaming the world for your lack. The world doesn’t need to change for you to be successful. You do. If you don’t go into Miracles Coaching, at least do something to improve your mind and go for your dreams. Dare something worthy. And do it now.