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Your Secret Desire

Elsie Lincoln Benedict – the forgotten wonder woman of self-help who I wrote about here on my February 15, 2015 blog post – taught me something profound.

Book from 1921

Book from 1921

I was reading her 1921 book, How to Unlock Your Subconscious Mind (sometimes called Mental Analysis: How to Unlock Your Subconscious Mind) when I came across this insight in the final chapter:

Indight from Elsie

Insight from Elsie

“Whatever your conscious mind affirms, visualizes and suggests to the subconscious, the subconscious will build into your life.”

For you and I today, that’s probably not news. But in 1921, it was a breakthrough new concept.

It basically said that you could choose what you want with your conscious mind, and with intention and imagery, you could get it into the subconscious, where it would take seed and begin to grow.

Why is this so important?

Because Elsie said something else right before revealing that concept that was even more insightful, and something so profound that I had to reread it a few times.

Elsie wrote –

“This newest, hitherto unpublished and most far-reaching of all the discoveries concerning the laws of human life is that every human being GETS his supreme subconscious wish.”

In short, there is a type of prime directive in your subconscious mind.

It is the secret guiding desire for your life.

You may not know what it is, but your subconscious is attracting into your life everything to make it real.

What you are getting right now is a match to the secret desire of your subconscious – your “supreme subconscious wish.”

In my own work, I talk a lot about counter-intentions.

A counter-intention is a hidden belief in contrast to what you consciously say you want.

You might consciously say you want a new job, but unconsciously believe you won’t get one due to the economy (or some other excuse/reason/belief), and your unconscious, being more powerful, will make the counter-intention come true.

Ad for free lectures circa 1920

Ad for free lectures circa 1917

Elsie would probably agree but her deeper insight is that the subconscious has one major intention and it will allow nothing to come about to contradict it.

Elsie explains –

“Let us repeat: Your supreme subconscious wish dictates your life. It permits nothing seriously to interfere with its materialization. It is automatic, implacable. What you want most of all, as a condition in your life, it will get for you.”

Now think about this.

If your conscious intent is to attract more money – for yourself or others or causes you believe in – but your secret subconscious wish is to avoid money so you consider yourself “spiritual,” then your subconscious mind will make sure that you get your chief hidden intention — and stay broke.

Your subconscious secret desire will win.

It’s the same scenario with anything you can name.

Want a relationship but secretly want to stay alone because it feels safer?

Then nothing you do will work because the secret intent of your subconscious will control the outcome. You will be alone but “safe.”

Want better health but secretly want to stay ill so you can avoid taking actions and risks in the world?

Then your overriding subconscious desire will make sure you stay ill. You will be sick but “risk free.”

Elsie goes on to explain that your secret desire is for a feeling or condition, not anything specific. She says –

“Our supreme subconscious wish is never for any specific thing or person but for a condition, a certain avenue of self-expression.”

Elsie’s insight, offered in 1921, is a mind opener.

Elsie Lincoln Benedict

Elsie Lincoln Benedict

Here’s why –

First, realizing you have a secret subconscious “prime directive” helps explain why you are attracting what you have in your life: your subconscious insists on it.

Second, realizing you can change your subconscious secret desire to something else – with your conscious mind affirming and visualizing a new outcome – is enlightening and empowering.

Once again, Elsie has rocked my world.

I trust you see the power of these insights from our dear woman of the 1920s.

But here’s a suggestion –

You can sit and reflect on what your subconscious might want for you, which will help explain what you are attracting into your life.

You can then use your conscious mind to offer new instructions to your subconscious, reprogramming it to help you attract more of what you consciously prefer.

Got it?

Elsie was pointing the way to the hidden operations in our mind, long before positive psychology and neuroscience came into play.

Thank you, Elsie.

I love you.

Ao Akua,


PS – Unraveling your own beliefs can be tricky, since you are the one wrapped up inside of them. The fastest way to expand your mind is with the help of your own Miracles Coach. Check out Miracles Coaching.

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Brain Change

What I teach is that when you change your inner beliefs, your outer life changes.

In other words, what you are attracting today is due to your mental programming, whether you consciously realize it or not.

Your beliefs set up a “filter” in your mind.

Your brain then only allows you to perceive what is a match to your existing beliefs.

Given that, how do your change your beliefs – especially when you may not even know what they are?

There are lots of ways, but here’s a new one that is easy, fun, and a joy to do http://www.OneMoreDayCD.com

Here’s the story —

Brain Change in 3 Minutes

Brain Change in 3 Minutes

Every song on my forthcoming new album is a type of “3-minute self-help book.”

In other words, each song delivers a powerful message, and in about three minutes.

This is a breakthrough new way to get the positive messages I teach straight into your mind, by simply *listening* to this music.

The messages are the ones I spend entire books writing about, whether how to “Nevillize” a goal, or attract what you want, to songs designed to motivate, inspire, and awaken.

So, each song is a self-help book in about 3 minutes.  🙂

I posted a video on Facebook of me talking about one new song and over 12,000 people went to see it and many wanted that one song right then and there.

That song – called ‘Deep Within’ – and all the others, will be on my new album.

Another song, called ‘Some Thoughts,’ teaches you that some thoughts are crappy, and some are wise – but also teaches you how to change your thoughts “like a jukebox in your mind.”

That song’s on the new album, too.

The album is called One More Day.

The subtitle is “Life Lessons in Hypnotic Song.”


Besides my band of legends – like Daniel Barrett, Glenn Fukunaga, drummer Joe Vitale and G-Monk Mathew Dixon – I’ve also added Grammy nominated singer Ruthie Foster. (!)

The new album will come on audio CD, with a booklet containing photos and lyrics.

It will be a limited-edition collectible.

It will ship (around April) with a surprise gift.

You can pre-order one or more (at a dramatic discount) right here — http://www.OneMoreDayCD.com

This will be a fun and easy new way to change your brain so you can begin to have, do, or be more of what you really desire.

You deserve it, right?

Invest in *you*.

Expect Miracles.

Ao Akua,


PS – You can also see that famous Facebook video of me in the studio talking about one of the songs at http://www.OneMoreDayCD.com

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Brain Filters

“I’m not a fan of your books.”

“I’m not a fan of your saying that.”

“But your books don’t jell with my experience.”

“Of course they don’t. Your experience is based on your beliefs, and your beliefs don’t match my beliefs, so you naturally can’t be a fan of what you don’t believe.”


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“Look. Your life has been one of struggle. So when you look around, you don’t see positive things. But you are looking around through a brain filter of limiting beliefs, and those beliefs are giving you the life experience of struggle you have.”

“See? You don’t make any sense!”

“Well, if you believed in positive thinking and positive doing, and began to see the positive in what’s already around you, you would attract more positive experiences, and then you would agree with my positive teachings.”

“But that’s not my experience!”

“Exactly. Your current beliefs are attracting your current experiences. You’ll get the same thing in the future as you have in the past until you change your beliefs.”

“You’re not in touch with reality!”

“I’m not in touch with your reality. But I was once. I used to think in terms of struggle, lack, limitation and victimhood. But I spent a lot of time, money and energy to retrain my brain, so today I see and experience miracles.”

“But even if that were true, how do I change my beliefs?”

“The first step is being open to a new view of reality.”

“I’m not sure I can do that.”

“That’s a belief, you know.”

“It is?”


“Then how do I become aware of my beliefs, since I don’t seem to know what they are?”

“By looking at what you have and asking, ‘What might I believe to attract that into my life?'”

“Will your books help me with that?”

“You mean you haven’t actually read them?”

“I flipped through them.”

“Yes, start with my books.”

“Which one?”

“The one you are resisting reading.”

Ao Akua,


PS – Of course, the faster way to see and change your beliefs is with a trained objective person. Maybe see Miracles Coaching.

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When Affirmations Fail

“Affirmations don’t work for me.”

“That’s an affirmation, you know.”


“Affirmations are anything you affirm as true,” I explained. “You can affirm something positive or something negative.”

“Say what?”

“You said ‘Affirmations don’t work for me’ which is an affirmation that affirmations don’t work for you.”

“I don’t follow.”

“You get what you believe and expect,” I explained. “If you believe affirmations won’t work for you, then you will get the experience of affirmations not working for you.”

“But they really don’t work for me!”

“I know. That’s because you are affirming that they don’t work.”

“You’re confusing me!”

“Look, the meaning you give an event is the belief that attracted it. If you feel affirmations don’t work, then you are attracting experiences to prove that affirmations don’t work. If you switched it, you could attract proof that affirmations do work.”

“But how would I do that when my mind says they don’t work?”

“That’s simply what you currently believe,” I went on. “It’s your current habit of thinking. But you can begin a new habit by beginning a new thought process today.”

“It’s that easy?”

“It’s simple but maybe not easy,” I said. “But you can begin right now.”

“Affirmations do work?”

“That’s a start.”

Ao Akua,


PS – You can see your beliefs more clearly when you have a trained objective person helping you. Consider http://www.MiraclesCoaching.com

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Beliefs Blocking Wealth

The following is a guest post by my friend and mentor Morty Lefkoe.  Morty struggled to make lasting changes in his life for 45 years until he figured out a way to unlearn the beliefs that held him back. He turned what he discovered into a repeatable process that he used to help others—including family, friends, and eventually 150,000 individuals and over 50 corporations—unlearn their limiting beliefs. He shares what he discovered with readers like you in his weekly blog at http://www.mortylefkoe.com

How negative beliefs will keep you from achieving wealth

by Morty Lefkoe

About a year ago Joe Vitale and I were having dinner at my home in Northern California. At some point we started discussing the Law of Attraction (LOA). Both of us agreed that no matter what we felt, what we focused on, and what we did, if we had a bunch of limiting beliefs serving as barriers to achieving personal success—whether you measure that by money, position, or a general sense or happiness—it would be difficult if not impossible to get what we wanted.

Let me explain why.

Why beliefs have the power they do

A belief is a statement about reality that we feel is “the truth.” Our beliefs seem like facts to us. So if you believe life is difficult, relationships don’t work, or money is hard to get, for you, those are facts about the world. You will deal with life as if they are as real as the device on which you are reading the words.

I conducted a survey of my mailing list a few years ago and asked them to name the six most common beliefs that could keep them from achieving financial abundance. Here is how they answered (the most important one first):

Six of the most damaging beliefs about money

* You have to work hard to make money.
* I’ll never have enough money.
* Money is a struggle.
* I’m not deserving.
* There is never enough money.
* Life is difficult.

If you really thought these six statements were accurate descriptions of reality, can you see how you would be blocked in your ability to create financial abundance in your life?

  • You would have to work very hard all the time (which is not really a good way to enjoy your life) and, if you didn’t, you wouldn’t expect to make money.

  • How motivated could you be to make money if you really were convinced you would never have enough? And if somehow you did have “enough,” there would be the constant fear that you would lose it, because you don’t expect to have enough.

  • You would expect to struggle all the time to make money. And if you were unwilling to struggle all the time, you wouldn’t even try to make money.

  • The fourth belief is an interesting one because it is a self-esteem belief, not a belief directly related to money. If you really believe that you aren’t deserving, you will unconsciously resist getting what you want. And like the second belief, if somehow you did get some money, you probably would find some way to lose it because you wouldn’t deserve to have it.

  • If you really believe there is never enough money, you will never be satisfied with what you have. You will always experience needing more money no matter how much you have. This dooms you to dissatisfaction no matter how much wealth you accumulate.

  • The final belief isn’t even about making money or achieving financial abundance as such; it is a belief about life, one that is very common. If you expect life to be difficult, it will be.

Self-esteem beliefs can also sabotage your ability to accumulate wealth

These are only the major beliefs specifically relating to achieving abundance. It should be clear that self-esteem beliefs could affect your financial situation—beliefs like I’m not good enough, I’m inadequate, I’m not capable, I’m not competent, I’m powerless, and I’ll never get what I want.

Is it real now that your beliefs could severely sabotage your ability to earn money and accumulate wealth? In other words, personal success will probably always be just outside your reach.

Is eliminating beliefs sufficient?

But what happens if you eliminate all the beliefs that could interfere with your accumulating money? Will that insure your financial security? Unfortunate, the answer is, no.

If you have a behavior you want to stop, such as procrastination, or a negative feeling, such as anxiety, if you eliminate all the beliefs that cause the behavior or the emotion, they will permanently stop. Guaranteed.

But attaining wealth is not a behavior or a feeling; it is something that has to happen in reality. And, although getting rid of limiting beliefs can increase the possibility of something happening in reality, eliminating beliefs will not insure it.

There are many factors determining your ability to accumulate wealth

In order to earn money you have to offer people something of value they are willing to pay for. If you have nothing to offer, or if your price is higher than what people think the product or service is worth, or if your expenses are higher than your revenues, etc. you will never earn much money.

If you want to work for someone else and don’t have the skills that employers are looking for, or if you aren’t particular effective at what you do, or if you are late in doing what you are asked to do, etc., the chance of getting or keeping a job, much less a promotion and raise, is not very good.

So getting money depends on more than eliminating beliefs, as important as that is. It is a precondition, but not sufficient in itself. You also need an effective strategy that is implemented well.

Eliminating beliefs can help you find the best course of action

Getting rid of beliefs will not only remove barriers, as discussed earlier, it also creates possibilities for taking action that significantly improves your chances of doing what needs to be done to make money.

Let me explain how eliminating beliefs creates new possibilities that didn’t exist before. Imagine you had the beliefs: I’m not loveable, relationships don’t work, and men/women can’t be trusted. If you really believed that is the way reality is, what would be the possibility for you to have a good, nurturing, loving, long-term relationship? Slim to nil, right?

Now let’s imagine that you totally eliminated those three and a few other related beliefs. Can you see that without changing anything else about you or reality, you now have possibilities for a good, nurturing, loving, long-term relationship that you didn’t have before.

How eliminating beliefs creates new possibilities

My wife Shelly, a Certified Lefkoe Method Facilitator who has helped thousands of clients eliminate the beliefs that stop them, tells the following story about personal success..

A client called her one day and told Shelly that she and several friends had just attended T. Harv Eker’s “Millionaire Mind” workshop, after which she purchased the summerhouse of her dreams. She was so excited that she just had to tell Shelly that what she had learned in the course had enabled her to do it.

Shelly pulled out the client’s file and read her some of the beliefs she had recently eliminated: Money is scarce and hard to get. Mistakes and failures are bad. If I make a mistake and fail I’ll be rejected. You have to save your money for a rainy day. Taking risks with money is dangerous. I’m not deserving.

Shelly then asked her: “Regardless of what you learned in the course, do you think you would have purchased the house had you not eliminated these beliefs first.”

There was silence on the other end of the phone. Finally the client responded: “Probably not.”

Shelly then asked: “What did your friends buy or do to increase their income after they finished the course?”

The client answered slowly: “Nothing.”

In other words, you need the possibility for something to happen before it can happen. When you create possibilities, you see things you can do that you never saw before. And eliminating beliefs is the best way to create new possibilities.

So what do I do to accumulate wealth?

Although getting rid of beliefs is not sufficient to make money, it certainly is one of the most important things you can do if you ever hope to accumulate wealth. And if you take advantage of the possibilities that get created when the appropriate beliefs are eliminated, your chances of personal success and financial abundance increase exponentially.

What are you waiting for?

Morty Lefkoe

Morty Lefkoe

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